Exposed by a Nurse Practitioner

SheelaDavis · 2025-07-25T20:21:13Z

I wish you the best. I truly do.

1. As for legal repercussions against the NP, the odds are very low that you could win. Why? As nasty and wrong and immoral as her actions were, they are likely not Illegal. Your case is public information. Now, if you can prove that she showed the staff your BON discipline stuff in an attempt to directly cause you harm, then that's 1/2 of the equation. The 2nd part is that is actually caused you harm regarding job loss, etc. It sounds like you were already taking personal time (not on the job) when she showed the staff your public info.

2. You would have to prove she was trying to harm you. She will say, "I showed the staff this as a learning lesson of the importance of substances and felt the team needed to know." Is she lying? Probably she is, but Very Difficult to prove when your discipline is already public. Equally important, it goes beyond proving her trying ro cause you some form of harm. You would have to actually prove that harm was done. It's hard to prove emotional harm if you are already not on the job and you violated your consent order by using alcohol. Any lawyer would say, "the emotional issues you have proceeded" the disclosing of your discipline stuff to staff.

3. I do wish you the best and you can do this. Important Redflags that stand out regarding your future recovery according to your words.

A. You diverted opiates in the past, but you did drink alcohol? You are human and will be OK, but understand that addiction is a dopamine problem. If you had a problem with opiates and never struggled eith alcohol, you can quickly flip that switch to alcohol and become addicted due to brain changes that occur with initial addiction. It's critical you understand what cross addiction is. For example, an addicts 2 years in recovery gains 60 lbs or watches porn 3 times per day when this was a never a problem before. The addict has simply traded addictions. From an addictions standpoint, alcohol in your mind needs to be like opiates to you......as in....forever. Don't do it.

B. You said you felt shame when everyone found out? Why did Everyone find out? Why didn't the overwhelming majority of them already know about your background? The fact that they didn't implies Secrets and Shame and secrets and shame don't go well with recovery. An addictionologist would tell you this is one of your core characteristics regarding character flaws and potentially one of the major factors that led to you getting addicted to opiates to start with. It's a bad sign for your recovery not that you slipped and drank (that's concerning) but what is MORE concerning is that you feel shame that the coworkers found out and you obviously didn't tell them about your past to start with. That's Alarmingly Scary from a recovery standpoint. You haven't let the secrets go and you haven't let the shame go. Let it Go! Who gives a Dam% about what they think of you. You have to fix this quick.

You have got this. Back on the bandwagon you go and you will work through this and carry on and do well and finish monitoring. Best wishes to you.

Nursrcy00901 · 2025-07-26T04:47:16Z

Before I started working at my current job, a worker looked up my license and showed everyone. In fact I was given the option to decline a job there because of it but chose to stay because it is public and unfortunately people are mean towards addicts.

SheelaDavis · 2025-07-26T17:40:09Z

Nursrcy00901 said:

Before I started working at my current job, a worker looked up my license and showed everyone. In fact I was given the option to decline a job there because of it but chose to stay because it is public and unfortunately people are mean towards addicts.

1st, even though the person "showed everyone," you were given an option to not work there and you chose to work there. Legally, there is litte repercussions you have. That does not mean what the coworker did was Morally Wrong, Mean, and Unkind. It was very wrong.

Now, once again, your thinking needs changed from a recovery perspective. Your thinking wreaks of potential relapse. Here is why. You wrote, "People are mean to addicts." So, which "people"? Is that every citizen of Vermont, Hong Kong, Russia, and California, but not Alabama, New York, or Kansas? Or.....is it just 30 percent of them, or 40, or 90? WORDS MATTER. Why do they matter? They hint at what you are thinking. You basically wrote, "Everyone in the world is mean to addicts." It suggest Black and White thinking, or concrete thinking or a little bit of splitting. That thinking is lethal for addicts. You deep down surely don't believe everyone on planet earth is "mean to addicts." I will submit to you that MOST, the MAJORITY are NOT mean to addicts. Was the Chief Nurse or Chief of Human Resources mean to you? They gave you a job? You diverted narcs. You realize that's a felony and carries 5 years for each count. Was the DA and DEA and Hospital Chief of Risk Management mean to you? They could have put you (just like me) in prison. They didn't do that, and trust me, they knew about it. Every hospital diversion is reported to the DEA and local police/District Attorney.

The point I'm making is two fold. The first is open your eyes and see the good. See the gifts or luck or whatever you want to call it that have broke your way. The BON? They could have revoked your license for good. Clearly, everyone is NOT "mean to addicts." The second item is basically one of the 12 steps of any recovery program and that is.....Stop Caring What Others Say About You. Let it go. Let it roll. You care so much because your ego will not submit. I Did Not just write to let people Mistreat You. You stand up for yourself, period, BUT you have got to get past what the "other nurses are saying in the breakroom." The standard, the locus of control has to be YOU. You are your own Standard and your Higher Power is Your Standard and that is it. As recovering addicts, we don't gloat when we get complimented. We say thanks only. As addicts, we don't drive ourselves crazy when another human "looks down on us" because of past addiction. We continue to be kind, professional, and we move on, and we realize the problem isn't us, it's there problem if they don't like us, but if our ego is still so big (Narcissism) that it bothers us about what coworkers think or say, it is now our problem. It is not our problem if It rolls off of our shoulders and we don't miss a beat. It becomes there problem.

The Above is Recovery. When you get to the above level. You are in a great position to remain strong.