East Coast to West Coast

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I don't know if this is a vent or plea for help or what... But here goes. My husband is military, we are stationed on the East Coast. He's currently deployed and called me at 3 am to tell me he got his new orders, he is being transferred to California. I am beyond frustrated, upset, stressed, whatever else. Im graduating with my Associates next month and starting a 2.5 year BSN program in January. Now I have to figure out if I want to spend 2 years, starting next summer, living here in the house we just bought last year, and going to Nursing school in the program I have been guaranteed a spot in since June, or if I'm going to transfer to a school near San Diego. I am trying to find colleges online so I can figure out which ones I want to contact, but I have no idea where half these places are. Ive found some, like National University, SDSU, etc., but I worry I am not high enough on the competition scale to get accepted to these schools. I have a 3.4 and I scored an 82% on the TEAS V, therefore making me an "okay" candidate. Part of me wants to step away from my program so I can move with my husband and have 3 uninterrupted years together after having been through 2 deployments in the past 3 years, but the other part (probably my brain) tells me I would be an IDIOT to give up my spot. Im worried about leaving a program that is a part of a network of hospitals here, therefore practically guarantees me a job once I graduate. Im also trying to decide if I should add community colleges to my list of schools to apply to. I don't mind taking extra time to do an RN-BSN program, I just want to be a nurse. Anyways, I'm not really looking for advice as to what decision to make because I know it is mine to make, but more like good thoughts and prayers sent our way to help see us through this. TYIA.

*Edit* My associates degree is in Social Sciences, not Nursing. So if I chose to go the community college route, I would have to get the Associates in Nursing.

Medic24

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Specializes in Critical Care, Emergency Care. Has 8 years experience.

What about an online RN to BSN that doesn't require you to attend a campus? That way you could move with your husband and if he gets new orders it wouldn't matter.

traumanurse2b?

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What about an online RN to BSN that doesn't require you to attend a campus? That way you could move with your husband and if he gets new orders it wouldn't matter.

I don't have a degree in Nursing at the moment. My associates is in Social Sciences, Im sorry I should have clarified that. So I would have to go to a CC first, and then do the RN-BSN thing. I don't mind doing that though, its just another list of schools to go through the application process with.

rubato, ASN, RN

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Specializes in Oncology/hematology.

That's a tough situation. Like you said, ultimately you'll be the one making the decision, but if it were me, I just don't think I could live without hubby that long. There are nursing school's everywhere. Of course, you are right that it would be really tough to give up a guaranteed spot and hope to get in somewhere.

Good luck in your decision making. I hope it all works out for you.

traumanurse2b?

123 Posts

That's a tough situation. Like you said, ultimately you'll be the one making the decision, but if it were me, I just don't think I could live without hubby that long. There are nursing school's everywhere. Of course, you are right that it would be really tough to give up a guaranteed spot and hope to get in somewhere.

Good luck in your decision making. I hope it all works out for you.

Thanks Rubato. I'm strongly leaning towards that decision myself. They've given us some options, one of which is that he could leave in the fall instead of the summer, making it only a year and a half that we would have to be apart. This is probably one of the hardest decisions I've ever faced. The only upside is that I am 24, and we have no kids, so its not a big deal if my degree takes longer. Thanks again.