when your DON "has it out for you"

Town & Country · Sep 28, 2004

Well it seems to me you have 2 options.

If you love your job (except her), you could always stick it out and hope the old bat retires (what if she changes her mind?)

If she is really, really annoying, you could change jobs. BUT: is there anyone else there who is your supervisor who would give you a good reference?

You will need a good reference from a supervisor.

Have you tried speaking to her about it, or is that just out of the question?

I know some people are so blatant about what they're doing that it's way past that.

mkf0605 · Sep 28, 2004

I confronted her last monday and ended up more upset then when I went in there. I went to the administrator today and vented to her for 1 1/2 hours. She seemed like she would be fair and she said that she would talk to the DON and try to make things better. I don't know if I did more harm than good.

Town & Country · Sep 28, 2004

I'm sorry you are having a problem.

More likely than not, the Admin will side with the DON.

When you confronted the DON, were you confrontational?

Is there anything at all about her you can find to like?

How did you handle your meeting with her? Did you accuse her of things?

Speak to her again. Tell her that you really desire a good working relationship with her. You may have hurt your case by going over her head, but you may be able to fix it.

Tweety, BSN, RN · Sep 28, 2004

I confronted her last monday and ended up more upset then when I went in there. I went to the administrator today and vented to her for 1 1/2 hours. She seemed like she would be fair and she said that she would talk to the DON and try to make things better. I don't know if I did more harm than good.

That's a good start. Good luck.

Good employees usually don't leave jobs, they leave supervisors. I certainly wouldn't be able to hang around four years until DON retired. Good luck!

Town & Country · Sep 28, 2004

That's true, 3rdShiftGuy, but she says she likes everything except her DON.

If she has a good job and this lady is ruining it there must be a way to foster better relations.

Don't tuck your tail and run. Be pro-active, but don't have the attitude "look what she's doing to me."

Approach it in a problem-solving mode: what's the problem and how can you fix it?

If you can win her over, this will stand you in good stead not only in this job, but in FUTURE jobs, because this is the sort of thing they ask:

"Have you ever experienced a problem with a co-worker and how did you resolve it?"

Try to fix it. Sit down with a pad and piece of paper and brainstorm.