Do you feel more is expected of you...

No.

The only thing I've noticed is they don't put females on the "code grey" team.........which helps to descalate a combative patient. Not that I expect females to be on this team. 99.999% of the code greys are done on males.

Yeah, I get a similar expectation during our 'code whites' (violent pt) but since I'm the charge nurse, I have to respond and team lead anyway, but the rest of the male staff - including housekeepers, maintenance, etc - respond as well for added muscle if required, but it seldom comes to that, in fact, I've never had to muscle a combatant and likely wouldn't allow it to happen anyway. Our policies, unwritten or otherwise, are a little medieval.

I find I get called for combative patients and heavy lifts, but I don't wait to be called if I know either situation is occuring. I have a lot of experience with pt transfers from my previous job, so I have an advantage in technique even over my male co-workers. Talking to confused/agitated/combative pts just turns out to be something I'm good at, although, again, as an orderly, I often got called just for muscle. In those days, I learned quickly just to shut up and let the nurse do the talking--it doesn't help if too many people talk--but I got to see what worked and what didn't.

I'm lucky to work with a really good team of nurses--we share our respective strengths. I don't feel like I have to hesitate to ask for help when I need it, and it feels good to be able to return the favor.

I agree with those who have said what they have about the Code Grey/White's.

As Mike said above - I have helped some of the PCT's/CNA's ambulate patients before (the larger ones) since all of our CNA's seem to be scronny little carrot eaters! (I'm not all that "huge" myself) but anyways.

Overall, I don't feel that more is expected of you. I feel equally treated just as the other female RN's.