Call for Advice

[Zinobile]

I just want to ask a question of other SRNAs, how would you handle the following?

Fellow student is always up my a$$ for help, doesn't appear to do any of their own work, complains constantly about everything in the program, and is now insinuating themselves into my business and my interactions with others, I guess thinking that they're missing out on something. This person has no boundaries of their own, doesn't respect others' boundaries and appears to take no responsibility for themselves, (everything is always someone else's fault or responsibility).

Sharing my feelings is moot, but I don't know if I can be as direct as I want to be, 'cause I'm not perfect and I feel guilty going off on someone else, yet it's making me crazy and adding to an already unbelievable amount of stress with school and work.

Thoughts or opinions?

Thanks in advance.

[MmacFN]

Hey

I am not an SRNA but this is certainly a common situation in every educational experience, its happened to me.

I can be a blunt individual when i need to and i think this is one of those times. Pull them aside and put it out there.

Based on your comments I would say something like:

"Hey, i have alot of my own work to do and am really busy. I just dont have time to give you all the help you need you should email the instructor."

As for the personal issues

"Get the hell away from me, we are not friends"

has always worked well for me.

[Nitecap]

Confront the person professionaly. Are they lazy are struggling? If they are lazy bring it up nicely and say you arent gonna carry their load.

If the are struggling ask if they need some assistance? If things keep deteriorating you will have to get someone involved b/f your training is negatively effect.

[rayman]

Hey

As for the personal issues

"Get the hell away from me, we are not friends"

has always worked well for me.

Thanks......Now I know what to say to you when I run into you at a convention or something in the future! :roll

I know, easy shot but Mike, I just couldn't resist it! Take care buddy.

[MmacFN]

Damn u ray!

hehehe

No worries!

[momcrna]

Short response and walk away: " I can't help you with that", "I don't have time to listen to that". Walk away, don't wait for a return response. After a few times they will get the message and look elsewhere to unload/freeload.

[Zinobile]

Thanks for the responses. I feel guilty for feeling the way I do, 'cause I don't want to create any conflict but I'm tapped out. "Everybody wants a piece of me!!" I'm sure you all can relate. There's just nothing left over and I am starting to resent the interactions.

Do any other SRNAs out there have a life?

Just curious.

Zinobile

[apaisRN, RN, CRNA]

I don't think we're supposed to have a life. I miss mine.

[chansonsrna]

I concur...I miss life, and I don't just mean luxuries (ie shows, dinner out, 2 ply TP, etc). I also miss 6-7 hours of sleep, and seeing my wife. Still wouldn't trade places with anyone in the world. "Thank you sir may I have another"

[rn29306]

I concur...I miss life, and I don't just mean luxuries (ie shows, dinner out, 2 ply TP, etc). I also miss 6-7 hours of sleep, and seeing my wife. Still wouldn't trade places with anyone in the world. "Thank you sir may I have another"

I bought cheap TP one time. Emphasis on one time. This stuff resembled the TP in public schools, ie the John Wayne kind. I believe wax cooking paper would have been better suited than this stuff. Spend the money and get some quality TP.

[chansonsrna]

lol, the reference to TP was my poor stab at humor, which is another thing I fear I haven't had enough time to work on while in school....I did find the john wayne tp reference hilarious...never tried wax paper either hmmmm......

[MmacFN]

Hey

.....Dont squeeze the charmen.

lol, the reference to TP was my poor stab at humor, which is another thing I fear I haven't had enough time to work on while in school....I did find the john wayne tp reference hilarious...never tried wax paper either hmmmm......