I wanted to share an insight and experience I am having right now. I know this may not be a topic that many would seek, but I am sure I am not the only one who may be experiencing these types of problems during preparation for the exam.
I am a 2014 BSN graduate and I am still currently studying for the NCLEX. Honestly, I have been procrastinating myself in doing other things instead of studying (I know and I am very not proud of that). I have been I guess too overwhelmed to the fact that I can just "do it later", but I was wrong. I am having a problem focusing due to problems such as emotional issues.
I recently have broken up with my relationship just when I needed that support system and when I have decided to be really serious into studying for the examination. I am doing practice Q&A which helps a lot in learning. But when I come to the book into reading and understanding, I cannot concentrate at all. I tend to think about the past especially on the break-up.
It is very difficult to tend to studying when you have some other things such as emotional issues unresolved going through your mind. I am trying to cope to this GRIEF I suppose. But i cannot help it, and I decided to seek for some help and asking here if what can others tell me.
I am a religious with all due respect with others and I truly believe that probably,
"God can take away something you never expect to lose. But He can replace it with something you can never imagined you would have. Accept. Move on. Look forward"
And I am thinking the break-up can be sort of "sign" so I can focus into achieving that goal! TO BE A UNITED STATES REGISTERED NURSE. But how do you handle the grief and sadness towards studying? How do you keep moving forward?
I hope someone out there can understand what I am going through and relate it to studying for the examination. I have been doing research and it doesn't seem to help that much. I even am reading a book that helps on grief management. I decided to follow some ideas though to cut out distractions such as:
Disconnecting from social media
Trying to make a thorough plan and schedule for studying
Isolation
Exercising (cardio & gym, 3-5x in a week)
It's hard to move on, it's hard to cope grief, but I am doing my best. It's been days since the break-up and I am devastated because I cannot stop thinking like a psychotic patient and it stalls me so much! Very pressuring since I am still waiting in the processing for the NCLEX. But I know that relationships right now isn't even worth the time than the career path, that's why I decided to just stop.
Is there anyone out there who can tell me things that can help me in this situation? I will be glad to read them. I know everyone here is a nurse, student, graduate in the field of nursing. I will really appreciate everything you may say.
I think the best thing and priority right now is to study. The career should be first... I am not saying that I didn't want her... but I now realize through the help of friends, families, and also in this forum that I have created that... its just not worth the time to hold on to something that you are not sure of. But to as your career, it is something you can be assured of, you can really depend on, and lastly I know it will be worth it.
Love can come and go. But you can never really tell where it can come back again in our lives and for the incoming future. We are all human, we have feelings too... and when I was writing this post, I had my feelings up high. I agree with you that sadness is natural. But I guess, we must control our behaviors into the living moment now, in order to push forward and move on into the better future.
This goes to everyone here, I am grateful to have even posted this. I am happy to see alot of strangers whom I do not know.. but still... is a community of supportive people. I thank you all!
I will study now and soon be a RN. Feelings may be a natural ups and downs roller coaster.. it has fear accompanied with it... but as long as we try our best to go through it... it will always be worth the learning, the experience, and will be integrated into our lives to be a better person.
I'm going to add a little more info to give you some hope. My break up was last Thanksgiving. At the end of January, I met the love of my life, my best friend, my soulmate.
After my breakup, I spent the rest of the semester focusing on school. I had several stressful situations at once, one being a complete basement remodel due to lots of water damage. Then, I focused on Christmas and my kiddo on break. I went on a couple of random dates, nothing special.
The New Year came and so did a new semester. I focused on school, and then I met this guy who changed my life. I wasn't sure if I even wanted to go out with him. We hit it off the very first date and talked for hours. He is amazing and supportive and we just fit together right. It happened when I least expected it.
The other day, I got a message from the ex-boyfriend apologizing for his actions last November and how great of a person I am, blah, blah, blah. He wanted to fix things. I didn't even respond.
This girl may not be your true love, or she may end up coming back into your life later. Don't screw up your career by not passing NCLEX. You never know what lies ahead of you.
I'm going to add a little more info to give you some hope. My break up was last Thanksgiving. At the end of January, I met the love of my life, my best friend, my soulmate.
After my breakup, I spent the rest of the semester focusing on school. I had several stressful situations at once, one being a complete basement remodel due to lots of water damage. Then, I focused on Christmas and my kiddo on break. I went on a couple of random dates, nothing special.
The New Year came and so did a new semester. I focused on school, and then I met this guy who changed my life. I wasn't sure if I even wanted to go out with him. We hit it off the very first date and talked for hours. He is amazing and supportive and we just fit together right. It happened when I least expected it.
The other day, I got a message from the ex-boyfriend apologizing for his actions last November and how great of a person I am, blah, blah, blah. He wanted to fix things. I didn't even respond.
This girl may not be your true love, or she may end up coming back into your life later. Don't screw up your career by not passing NCLEX. You never know what lies ahead of you.
Thank you for sharing that. The past days have been pretty hard on me and since of coorifice it has just happened. (I guess, a week already or 2?) But I myself weighed the situations and I too want to go on with my career. To pass the NCLEX! To be an RN. Since it just happened, its natural to be shocked with loss and into the grieving process. But I don't want to dwell myself into it because it is not worth the time.
After reading your post, I just blanked out a moment and thought about things.. I really want to focus. I always keep telling myself "Let go... I've got dreams to remember.. that person doesn't really matter now.. I matter now." and its like a mantra ritual all the time. I know its a roller coaster, sometimes up and sometimes down, but I really don't wanna dwell in it. Its a waste of time and postponing.
And to which you said, "This girl may not be your true love, or she may end up coming back into your life later. Don't screw up your career by not passing NCLEX. You never know what lies ahead of you."
You may be definitely right. Thank you for sharing your piece of hope for me. I guess its better to come out of the comfort zone and face the fears of the unknown but whenever you give it a chance, I'm sure there is always something out there through the fear that is worth it.
I'm doing my very best right now! I can't thank you enough and how appreciative I am for you to support me on sharing your experiences for my own. God Bless you.
Hey guys, thank you all that responded to this post, sharing your stories. I am going through a hard situation were I am still engrossed in memories of my my ex who broke up with me a month ago. His last words were "May be if you finish nursing school we can try again." With a lot of pain I am carrying on, he was my support system and my backbone. This being my first heart break, it feels like no other pain I have ever felt.
I performed really poorly on the Teas exam because I was wallowing in unpleasant emotions. But by the grace of the one above, my GPA helped me through and I got accepted. I start nursing school in January - sometimes I wish he was here to celebrate with me. But I know in life everything happens for a reason. Thank you all guys for your words of encouragement and - we are all stronger than we ever think we can be.
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I think the best thing and priority right now is to study. The career should be first... I am not saying that I didn't want her... but I now realize through the help of friends, families, and also in this forum that I have created that... its just not worth the time to hold on to something that you are not sure of. But to as your career, it is something you can be assured of, you can really depend on, and lastly I know it will be worth it.
Love can come and go. But you can never really tell where it can come back again in our lives and for the incoming future. We are all human, we have feelings too... and when I was writing this post, I had my feelings up high. I agree with you that sadness is natural. But I guess, we must control our behaviors into the living moment now, in order to push forward and move on into the better future.
This goes to everyone here, I am grateful to have even posted this. I am happy to see alot of strangers whom I do not know.. but still... is a community of supportive people. I thank you all!
I will study now and soon be a RN. Feelings may be a natural ups and downs roller coaster.. it has fear accompanied with it... but as long as we try our best to go through it... it will always be worth the learning, the experience, and will be integrated into our lives to be a better person.
God bless everyone!