And while we're at it-things you'd LOVE to ask/tell management and get away with

[HelenofOz]

cos they really get me going!

Why is it that when the nursing staff ask for new equipment it is refused, but if we get the doctors to ask for it we get it. I HATE having to play that game, it's so unprofessional. If we need it, we need it, regardless of who asks for it.

Why do you cave in to the doctors, why not back up your unit managers some times when they tell the doc 'no, you can't do that' (not necessarily so bluntly). You're just rewarding bad behaviour, and it'll just get worse.

Don't think I can be bought off with a burnt sausage at a staff BBQ after I've been racing round like a mad thing because you think we're overstaffed. (see below)

Do not walk through PACU in our quiet time, please come through half an hour later -and help- when we are packed and most of the pts need one on one care, and we've had to stop theatres bringing out pts for the third or fourth time that day

And, no, I will not have any respect for you when you've been here for 4 years and you still don't know who I am as you present me with a long service award-it's not that big a hospital, make an effort!

[Moogie]

A lot of managers need to read The One Minute Manager. It's about giving immediate and truthful feedback on the spot, and then moving on.

As we're seeing here, so many of them delay giving feedback, allowing it to fester. It's unfair to nurses, and any employees.

I also learned a week or so at work my manager was angry with something I said to her, totally in conversation only. I had no idea that she was mad -- another co-worker overhead her gossiping about me behind my back to a few other managers.

I no longer feel as if I can have any respect for this manager -- and I really, really liked her before and DID respect her a lot. But to hear that she's talking about me behind my back and does not even have the B**** to come out and confront me directly -- totally blows it for me.

I went through this myself. I tried so hard to respect my NM after I found out what a gossip she was---I got to the point at which I felt if I could not respect her as a person, I would TRY to respect her as a manager.

Couldn't do it. When I overheard her talking about different nurses and CNAs behind their backs, I had to wonder---what was she saying about me? That was enough to erode my trust in her and ultimately, she lost my respect.

I truly enjoyed my job and liked my co-workers but the attitude of the NM was so prevalent and toxic that I had to leave. I wasn't the only one. I heard that four or five others left the facility shortly after I quit. And the NM was completely oblivious to why any of us left.