Advice please? I feel like I made a huge mistake...

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I posted something related to this here 2 months ago back when I was considering switching from evening shift to night shift. I had ultimately decided to remain on evening until something in days opened up because I was concerned about long term health/sleep issues with nights.

Long story short, something in days opened up and I just started it this past week. And it was the. worst. week. ever. I was never really much of a morning person, which is why I stayed on evening shift for so long, but being that my wife is stuck working evening shift (like me) at her new job, I had no choice but to change my shift because we have 2 year old girl AND opposite days off.

This whole past week, I've gotten sick and have been having digestive problems. I've been waking up 5am to be at work 7am. It's been extremely hard on me. For one I hate going to bed at "grandma-esque" times like 9pm/10pm, I usually stay up to 1am, 2am and wake up 11am the next day. Meanwhile, all my daytime colleagues are congratulating me, saying i made a great choice and how days are good for people with families, etc. Meanwhile, the whole time I felt as if I was living in the twilight zone while trying to remain optimistic about it.

While it could be true that I might need a couple more weeks to adjust, I just don't know anymore. Now whenever my wife comes home at 1am, I'm in bed trying to fall asleep while she's in the living room relaxing to soothing music because she can stay up late. We used to do that together and now I feel left out.

So to summarize... I applied to transfer to nights 2 months ago, backed out before I started due to health/sleep concerns. Applied for day transfer, got it, now having doubts about it after the first week of doing it. I would love to stay on evenings where I've been for years now but that doesn't look like an option anymore due to the babysitting dilemma. Part of me regrets not sticking with night shift because it looks like I'm already having sleep/health problems with day shift anyway.

If I ask my RN supervisor about doing nights again if its still available, do you think she will be upset or turn down my request? She did say that my first 3 month of day shift is considered "probation" to see how I perform on it, I don't know if this situation applies to "performance" though.

Specializes in Psych.

Little update...

1. Found out from my HR department that I have 90 days if I ever choose to go back to my evening position. During that time period, they will not give it to anyone else. I asked them "In that case, my supervisor shouldn't have a problem if I want to go back, right?" to which they said they don't know I would have to ask my supervisor about that. Hmm... HR is about nurse supervisors, right? So, shouldn't it not be a problem if I want to go back?

2. I was talking to a couple of my evening colleagues about going back, both of them chuckled and said "you think she will give it back to you?"... because basically, I turned down night shift (11-7) a few months earlier (2 weeks PRIOR to starting it) and now here i am 2 weeks into day shift requesting to go back again... so my colleagues think she will get upset with me because of that, because of the "way" she is so to speak compared to other supervisors. I don't know, but when you take what my HR dept said about 90 days into consideration, could she really get upset you think or deny the request?

3. If I do decide to stay on mornings, there is a possibility of being able to switch to my weekend to work to the opposite weekend, thus putting me on the same weekend as my wife, same days off in otherwords even though we would still be on different shifts.

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