A "chick's" perspective on Men in Nursing

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Ok, so I've been in healthcare for 18+ years (no - I'm not an old bag, I got into the field young...) Originally I was a critical care focused Respiratory Therapist (RCP) and only recently switched over to nursing and am working on obtaining NP certification.

Men have a HUGE advantage as nurses in a hospital! Here is what I've seen over the years:

1. Men get promotions faster (Yay for you!) - so that will be a great advantage for you.

2. Men are seen as more knowledgeable by patients, fellow staff, physicians, etc. - so even as a new grad, you've got an advantage. Use it - act like you're super confident and capable and with the combo you'll be Mr. expert nurse w/in 6 months!

3. If you're single and straight you've set yourself up as a big-fish in the hospital dating pond! (If you're not straight it depends on where you work on if you have an advantage or not...) Most people end up dating within the hospital (hey, I KNOW this from my experience! a couple male nurses, a few male respiratory therapists, a few doc's...). The Doc's have a certian novelty appeal, but once a gal is burned by one (which is the norm...) they swear off doc's and your competition has lessened dramatically right there. You're also seen as sensitive and caring because you're a nurse. As long as you're also viewed as smart & CONFIDENT!!!!! you'll be considered very appealing to the massive number of female nurses, RCP's and other allied health chicks in the hospital!

4. There is a reason soap opera's are usually set in hospitals! As a male, you are virtually assured that you won't get sucked into the drama, politics, cat-fights, etc. that naturally occur with so many females around. This usually also applies if you're gay, but not always - if you're a drama queen yourself, well, then you'll be right in there with the rest of the gals....

5. Because you DON'T get sucked into the politics, most everyone LIKES you - you don't have hidden enemies planning sneak attacks on your reputation or job - super lucky you! This also helps you with the promotion thing I mentioned earlier...

The only drawback, really, to being a male nurse is the peri-care issues and females who don't want a male caregiver. But so what?!?!?! This happens with us gals also - not as commonly, but it does.

ONE BIG DANGER!!!! - There are some male nurses, RCP's etc. who get reputations for being lazy - DON'T let that happen to you! Once you've got the label, you're screwed and all the nasty stuff that gals can do will start happening to you (plotting to get you fired, excluding you from important stuff, etc.). Until you're reputation is secured work extra hard & earn the respect of the other nurses, physicians AND respiratory therapists (RCP's will get'cha - watch out!!). Once you're loved and admired you can sit back a bit more and not work quite so hard. BUT - if you're caught sleeping in the dirty utility closet even after becoming the "cool guy" you're doomed....

If you REALLY want to be a hot item and you're from the UK, Canada, etc. - come work in the states! You get all of the above, plus the added "exotic" benefit of being from abroad!

So, sit back, don't stress, and look forward to the time when you become the respected, admired, "hottie" male nurse that all the females really dig (straight or gay - we'll still dig ya. Only difference is whether or not we're going to try and set you up with our gay friend or girlfriend...)

Have fun!!!!

Haha! Me too! Well, I'm married now so it doesn't make any difference, but it sure is an entertaining thought!

Specializes in aged care.

This is a very encouraging response......thanks so much. I guess the take home message that I got from this is......keep your head down and be competent. The gender complex won't bite you in the butt so hard. I'm feeling the gender complex thing atm....Im doing my utmost for patient care as a final year male nursing student (working agency work as a nursing assistant for time management experienc).....but tbh....my hetero male ego....feels as if it's being repeatedly kicked inthe balls and I just have to take it. I dunno....hopefully I'll get over it in time. I guess that If I had a relationship with another healthcare professional preferable a beautiful female nurse (you know you are the best...bar none!).....I would feel far better about myself....atm....this is not the case..and feeling terrible tbh.

Wow that is great to hear.

Usually when I tell the ladies that I am heading into nursing school I add a clarification that goes something like this:

Lady: "So what do you do?"

Me: " I'm getting ready to head into nursing school.... but I'm totally straight"

(no offense to anyone)

Now I can say:

" I'm getting ready to head into nursing school... and I'm the kind of nurse that :heartbeat the ladies"

Specializes in Mental Health; Medical-Surgical/Trauma.

As if being a nurse itself wasn't enough...I'll gladly take on these extra challenges. ;)

Specializes in Mental Health; Medical-Surgical/Trauma.

As if being a nurse itself wasn't enough...I'll gladly take on these extra "challenges". ;)

I am beginning to see this is very true. Just finished my first year of nursing school. I work as a telemetry tech in a smaller hospital at the moment. I have been on days for the last year and none of the girls (older) appeal to me. But for the last week I have worked nights (more new grads) and all of the sudden instead of having to tube the tele boxes to the floor they show up in groups to get them. Maybe I'm wrong, but feeling a lot of flirtatious vibes.

I interviewed for an extern job in the ER of a large hospital on Thursday. Busiest ER in the mid-state area. I am pretty sure I am going to get it and anxious to see the difference in prospects.

Haha, Now I feel so good after rejection from 2011 UCLA new grad job. Thanks for the info and now I go for another job search.

OMG I wish all that were true! (extremely skeptical) However, IMO the only thing I ever want out of nursing is to be able to find a job where work is enjoyable. I've lived the life of spending every Sunday night dreading the start of a new week. Never Again!

Specializes in aged care.

Hi J Modz.....

Is Modz short for anything?.....I have a cousin ....who is a Modz plus extra .....she is a hyper successful partner in a multinational management firm....just putting it out ther....

Specializes in aged care.

Hi docomo,

what did you do previously if I may ask?

I'm still feeling burnt out from my old folks home work.....crazy.

cheers

Specializes in icu/er.

man i telling you young fellas out there when you start working at a place the best thing you can do is just be generally nice to people, everyone from the house keeping people to the hottest nutrtionist girl in the hosptial, esp be nice around all the hot co-workers. they notice that crap..alos compliment them, "hey i like your hair, those are some cool earings...i compliment all of them from resp techs to the residents..gotten a few dates from it. be nice, sincere and you'll have a blast.

Specializes in Infectious Disease, Neuro, Research.
be nice, sincere and you'll have a blast.

Can't say it better than that!;)

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