The bottom line is, as with a lot of things in life, what is good for one person is not necessarily good for everyone. That is why (thankfully), when it comes to getting into the field of nursing, there are many different ways to do it. The minute any of us start comparing ourselves to one another based on education and degree status alone, we begin to neglect the fact that, regardless of degree, we all have unique skills and weaknesses that we bring to the table.
Yes, a BSN is a more difficult degree to attain, and yes, BSN nurses have additional education you don't get in ADN programs. Yes, a BSN is also much more expensive to attain in most cases. No, BSN nurses don't generally start out significantly higher in pay or supervisory role than ADN nurses. Yes, having a BSN opens up more opportunities for you in the future. No, ADN nurses are not lazy morons who "took the easy way" into nursing because they don't have the brains and the drive to get their Bachelor's.
Yes, we should all congratulate each other for making it to whatever point we are at in our career, and refrain from making other people feel badly about their very personal education and career decisions. God knows there are a LOT of stresses to deal with in the nursing profession - sniping at each other over credentials should NOT be one of them.
I have had similar conversations with friends and acquaintances, and all of us have valid points. The bottom line is, we all choose the path that works the best for us, that seems right for us, and we walk down that path hoping that those around us will be supportive and understanding of our choices, even if they do not agree or understand.
I hope that your friendship with this person can be repaired and that she will choose friendship over an attitude of arrogance she has adopted from listening to someone else's opinion on this debate. Best of luck to you.
And yes, I am choosing to do an ADN program also. Not because I do not value a Bachelor's degree, but because I am a mother of 4 children and need very much to balance my educational goals and the financial burden they represent with the needs of my family. And I thank GOD that there is an ADN option available to me that allows me to do that. And I KNOW in my heart that I will be an excellent nurse because I choose to be so, not because I have the most advanced degree possible.