Minor rant. Leaving notes the parents ask to be written.

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I had to do something tonight that drives me crazy. I despise hearing a parent ask me to "write a note to the other nurses". Usually because its a complaint. Then I look like the bad guy. I'm not the parents secretary, but I don't consider it outside of my job either. I feel like when the other nurses see a note in my handwriting that it doesn't come across well. I always start the notes with "Per mom" or whoever has asked me to write it. If something bothers the parent that bad, they need to write the note themselves! I don't mind doing things for parents. But I don't want to get in the middle of something that I'm not involved in to begin with.

Any suggestions? Or just let it go and hope the nurses understand? I know of one on my case that would understand. But a few are very sensitive and can/would take it the wrong way. I also think it sounds better if it comes from the parent because its more alarming seeing the parent take the time to write a note.

I've never had a interior decorator coworker either but I have worked for a mom that had reorganizing fever. I was the primary nurse on the case and half the time I didn't know where anything was. Sometimes I felt she did that so we always be asking where things were like an idiot

She needs a label maker! I am obsessed with mine!

Specializes in Pediatric.
Fortunately I've been spared coworkers who take it upon themselves to rearrange someone else's house. Now I've been asked by mom's to rearrange or reorganize and sometimes equipment changes make it necessary but in the world of texting it's so easy to get everyone else's input.[/quote']

Lol a re-arranging coworker would drive me out of my brain! Go re-do your apartment or house once a week if you need to! Haha!

Specializes in Pediatric Private Duty; Camp Nursing.

I don't really fault any nurse who writes a note that includes "per mom". Doesn't bother me, I just assume that's the nurse who got it from the horse's mouth, is all.

Specializes in Pediatric.
I don't really fault any nurse who writes a note that includes "per mom". Doesn't bother me I just assume that's the nurse who got it from the horse's mouth, is all.[/quote']

I wrote one of those notes last night. Mom asked me, I had nothing to do in that moment, so whatever.

I wouldn't mind a "per Mom" note if it wasn't unnecessarily nasty. I worked on one case where one of the nurses had been on the case for a long time and I never came to work that there wasn't some kind of a snippy little note in the pass on book. Mom didn't have any trouble telling you anything to your face either, and did not know how to say anything without being insulting. A "per Mom" would have softened those nasty notes from that nurse but I don't think they did come from Mom, they came from her! And certainly, some information like, "Please don't open the window" or even just, "don't open windows" is welcome because I think most of us want to do a good job and please the people we work with!! But these notes always had some kind of an insult attached to it ... they were just nasty!

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I wouldn't mind a "per Mom" note if it wasn't unnecessarily nasty. I worked on one case where one of the nurses had been on the case for a long time and I never came to work that there wasn't some kind of a snippy little note in the pass on book. Mom didn't have any trouble telling you anything to your face either and did not know how to say anything without being insulting. A "per Mom" would have softened those nasty notes from that nurse but I don't think they did come from Mom, they came from her! And certainly, some information like, "Please don't open the window" or even just, "don't open windows" is welcome because I think most of us want to do a good job and please the people we work with!! But these notes always had some kind of an insult attached to it ... they were just nasty![/quote']

I've read those type notes. Can someone say "passive aggressive?!"

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