I have to choose between being a nurse or mother! - page 2

I was diagnosed with pcos in feb. 2011, moved here to texas. And was diagnosed with high bp, pcos, diabetes type 1, and just found out i may have fibroids also(family history of it) in september... Read More

  1. by   RubySlippers06
    Quote from vintagemother
    As mom to 3 going thru a divorce, can I double like this comment!!!! if its meant to be, you will have chance to have more kids later. Don't stop your education to have kids with a man you already make more money than. When I was your age(8 years ago) I wouldn't have taken my own advice, but I plead with you to consider what those of us who have BTDT are saying!!
    I'm with these people. I'm so sorry that you are going through this and having to deal with it. I come from a large family and we (the kids) never had new clothes, couldn't do extra curricular activities, and were lucky if we got to split Chinese takeout. My parents made good money; but, because there were so many of use, basic living expenses came first.

    I am now the same age as you (I turn 25 in jan) and my husband and I have two kids. He got neutered because we decided we wanted to make sure we could always take care of the kids we have. Do I want more kids? I would love to have more! Do I need more kids? No, I satisfied with the two we have and I want to make sure they can participate in activities. Had my husband and I been more responsible and went to college, got married, then have kids instead of the exact opposite, we would probably of had more kids. However, we want to make sure we can always afford our family. He is in the military and I am in nursing school. Who knows, maybe 10 years from now we will adopt.

    Anyways, I think you should get a second opinion and don't have a baby just because this is your "last chance" to ever have another one. You can always adopt a baby once your career is stabilized.
  2. by   Katie828
    Why do you need a hystrectomy? Are you in pain?

    I say do NS and then adopt later....there are soooo many children who need good homes.

  3. by   Nursing2102
    Do you really want/need a third child? You've said your dh hasn't grown up yet.....?

    You can go to nursing school to become a nurse and support your two daughters very nicely on a nurses salary.

    If it were me, I'd go to nursing school. You're choice in the end.