1st day male in L&D - page 3

by Dayray

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I just graduated from an LPN program. I really liked my L&D rotation so I put in an application. The Director is great and she offered me a job working as an LPN in OBGYN/PP and too cross train me as an OB tech. She even offered... Read More


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    I don't think they should be asking if you can stay, it raises a level of doubt in the patient's mind as to whether you should be there at all. If your preceptor says, "This is Dayray, he's a new nurse here. I'm helping him out until he learns all our policies" then that should suffice. None of your coworkers should raise any questions about the appropriateness of you being allowed to do the job you were hired for. However, being the sensitive guy I know you are, you may find there is someone with particular religious beliefs, or a personal history where you wouldn't be the best nurse fro the job, and it is perfectly OK to ask for help. That would go for male and female nurses, so you shouldn't be self concious about it.
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    Id also like to hear any other suggestions or opinions you have in general (both good and bad) about male nurses in L&D/ women’s services.

    When I was pregnant, my (female) OB suddenly had a male OB-GYN in her office. He'd just finished school, and when I went in for my monthly checkup she asked me if he could sit in on my exam. I said "no". the reason I said no is because I'd spent (cumulatively) hours and hours and hours in her waiting room, just to have her as a Dr. If I'd wanted a male Dr. there were plenty in the area with empty waiting rooms.

    but- that guy Dr. is now my Dr! I got tired of waiting months for a pap smear appt., so I decided to give him a try. I actually like going to him better than her, he gives me more time to ask questions and really puts you at ease.

    so I don't get it; many women have male OB-GYN's. I don't see the difference with that and a male nurse. When I was in labor, some of the female nurses were so awful I would have preferred a caring "dude" nurse. During labor you don't care about modesty anymore, anyway.

    The other staff need to start acting like you belong there, and I think the problem of you being "sent out" will start to go away.
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    Dayray- I thought you were an old hat at nursing! Just figured you had ventured into a new specialty! Welcome back!
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    Quote from canoehead
    Dayray- I thought you were an old hat at nursing! Just figured you had ventured into a new specialty! Welcome back!
    Well I kind of am and kinda not. I worked with a volnteer ambulance company when I was 17 and had my preques for nursing done at 19 to the nursing program but worked out of health care for a few years and then got a paramedic certificate at 21 (have to be 21 to get it) I then worked for a few years in the ER, ICU, EMS and med surge. The hospital I worked at let me work in a similer capacity to an LPN. Then I worked in the finaclial word and finaly made enough money to go back to nursing school and then finaly became an RN about 3 years ago.

    So I've worked in allot of differnt areas and capacites over the the years in tottal about 11 years but only about 3 1/2 in L&D/PP.
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    We have female nurses that patients don't feel comfortable with and I respect the patient who asks that we switch assignments IF I am able to do that via staff ratio. Unfortunately, sometimes the problem is that the family tries to speak for the patient and I have found in labor and delivery, someone with a family member (or boyfriend, who is NOT technically part of the family), will acquiese to that person due to fear or maintenance of diplomacy. These are the types of situation that I will wonder about control issues or the relevancy of a future social service consult. Male or female, we can't please everyone.
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    That is wild, I never really thought about it until I was in my Ob semester and the class ahead of me has two men. I was talking to one of the men and he told me that he had been asked to leave the room on some occasions and that many patients had requested a female nurse.

    Here's my thing - most of the docs were men! So, what is the difference between a doctor man seeing your sun, moon and stars and a nurse man seeing your sun, moon and stars?! It makes no sense to me and I am a modest person - I chose a female OB but the practice has men and frankly right now (I'm 8 months pregnant) I don't care who checks it out as long as all is well with our baby!

    I would say continue to do what you love. I do think it was probably "leading" for her to ask if they wanted you to leave but maybe they could tell by the patients face that something was wrong and she was trying to tune in to it - that could be - I don't know. But the student situation thing you handled well - you understood that it was about them thinking you were a student and you chose to leave rather than make the situation more uncomfortable.

    Stick with L&D if you love it and perhaps mention to your preceptor that you are concerned with how patients will view you and ask for her input on what to do in those situations, maybe that will clue her in that you felt uncomfortable with her asking that question without you actually having to point it out.

    Hope that helps - I really want to work in OBGYN when I graduate too!

    Amy


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