Being told a nursing career is a pipe dream - page 2
by heartbeep 1,693 Views | 13 Comments
Okay, so I have a few obstacles. I'm 43, hate math, and have to work full time. I've had sedentary jobs for twenty years and though I'm not overweight or have any known problems, I'm not in the best shape. I have anxiety issues... Read More
- 0May 12, '10 by all_over_againA pipe dream? Hardly. I never found the coursework very difficult. But... And its a big one... Nursing was the most emotionally draining experience of my life. I have four children and have been widowed and it was being a nurse that just about killed me. And you solved all your issues after one semester of general psychology? Are you sure? I only ask because you shouldn't be so concerned about other peoples' assessments of your abilities if you had really worked things out.
Playing Devil's Advocate, obviously.
- 0May 12, '10 by heartbeepI appreciate that, AllOverAgain...It's important to have someone play the devil's advocate, it brings out the raw truth.
First of all, I am so very sorry about your heart-breaking loss. I am also sorry that your nursing experience was not a good one, and I admire you for raising your four children essentially alone; my little sister is also raising for children alone after their father died. Those three things must have really taken their toll, bless your heart, and I wish you healing and peace.
Good question, and the answer is no; not in one semester; my process actually took ten years total. I am still working at some of it, including feelings of inadequacy, which you have astutely picked up on! That's my one remaining struggle, and yes, I am hoping that achieving skills through nursing will give me some of that confidence back. Thank you again and I wish you all the best.
- 0May 12, '10 by rn-janeIf you have the desire the "@$%% with everyone and just "do it"! Look 14 years ago when I told my family I wanted to be a nurse I was laughed at by my family, dh's family but I had the desire and a supportive husband that said "Go for it" I was a bit younger 34 but lived as a sahm and lived moderatley in ease. I now am working on my masters, we would not be able to afford the lifestyle we have now, we own a horsebreeding farm. Dh has been laid off a few times and you know I really don't know how we would have survived without my nursing job. Dh's family always complained of me not working and raising the kids and thought i should get a waitress job. Last year I cleared 0ver $70,000 with overtime(we get paid double time) I certainly could not have done that with a job at dennnys. Don't let anyone tell you it's a pipe dream, they are envious or maybe scared you will leave your sedentary job. Just do it! It won't be easy but it can be done!
- 0May 12, '10 by heartbeepThank you RN_Jane!
I have to say though, outside of my family I always get the same reaction; "oh...you'd make a great nurse" from nurses and non-nurses alike. Regardless though, and my husband and I were just discussing this; what really matters is what I believe. I've learned a lot from you guys, thank you. I may have been making a mountain out of a mole hill, I don't know; I'm only at square one.
When you're on the sidelines and you hear nursing students and nurses talk about how college and the career are so very difficult and gut-wrenching, and hear about what a stressful and major burnout career it can be, it does give one pause before they commit. -But then I also hear so many nurses talk about how rewarding and satisfying it is as they fervently cheer the profession on. I will find out which one applies to me in my situation and when it's all over I might find myself in a quiet little office...but I'll never know until I do it. Oh hey...I didn't even think about my age for once!
Through this week-long discussion here and talking with my husband, I am not concerned about naysayers anymore. I hereby declare that I CAN.