Let me start out by saying, this is my first official job as an RN, and four years of nursing school could have never lead to me to the correct answer. I have talked to two different people about this situation and both have different opinions. I am a school nurse and I feel that it is my job to care for the student, the student is my number one priority! However, this day was difficult. The student has some severe mental imparements, leading to some anger issues, and severe ADHD. On this day, he patiently waited in line to be next to make his lunch, however when people passed him in line, he became very angry, and threw out his food. I try to have a good relationship with alll the children, be that person that they are able to confide in, with non-biased opinions. It is important in my school to have a good rapport with the students. Anyways, the teachers got mad, and instead of ignoring the issue, they blew up, yelling and screaming, only making the situations worse. I went and talked with the student, who insisted that he would not eat, but I knew was starving. The teachers decided that because he had acted this way he would not be eating lunch today. They insisted that nothing will be served to him, and they will not give into his bad behavior. Ok, so I know you do not want to reward bad behavior, but I ALSO know that you can not use and should not use food as a reward or punishment. So even though the teachers said NO HE WILL NOT EAT, I made him a sandwich just incase he decided to eat. Needless-to-say, the teachers were very upset with me. HOWEVER, my opinion is, I am there for the student, NOT the teacher! The student and I discussed his behavior when he came asking me if he could eat and I gave him his lunch, I also told him to appologize to the teacher, and thank her for being so kind as to still make him something to eat (even though she did not!) When asking a Psychiatrist about this situation I was repromanded for "Splitting" making the teacher look bad...but that was not my intention. My intention was to obide by the law. He is not fed at home, and is mother has already had problems with the state because of her treatment to her children...but as a school it is our job to feed the children, and using food as a punishment is not right....BUT WHAT IS?! Should I have let him go without food or unintentionally split the student and teacher?? I am so confused...its a nurses job, but we are always walking a fine line...and after being told to do my job and only my job...it makes me wonder...PLEASE HELP!!