Borderline and bipolar do overlap in a number of places, so it's entirely possible that you have some combination of the two, or you've flat out been misdiagnosed (like THAT ever happens, lol). Either way, having a mental health diagnosis stinks, and there's stigma no matter what kind you have.
I do feel bad for BPD sufferers though. A former resident of my assisted living community had a particularly nasty version of it, and I couldn't get this man admitted to any psych unit in the state when he decompensated and started threatening suicide, burning himself with his cigarette lighter, cutting himself open on soda cans etc. He'd gone through so many providers that no one would touch him. It took almost six months, but I finally got him into a psych unit just over the state line. I'll never forget the psychiatrist who called me on my personal cell phone
, at home, to discuss this poor fellow, and then called me back to let me know that he'd been admitted......it was such a relief to have someone LISTEN for a change, and be willing to help him.
I don't know what became of the guy, because he went to an adult foster care home when he got out of the hospital and then disappeared shortly thereafter. All I know is, it's tough enough living inside my own head sometimes......I can't even imagine the hell he went through living inside his.