I am having an issue with a nurse that I work with. A little background... I have been in nursing almost 10 years, first 9 in skilled/LTC and the last year or so in dialysis. I have worked with this nurse for sometime, while she was a tech in dialysis and I was a nurse on the floor, and again when she got her nursing license and worked for a year or so in skilled. I consider her a good friend, a reasource for me as she has worked in renal longer than I have. I respect her knowledge regarding renal patients and dialysis.
Anymore I cannot do anything right for her. Each of us nurses has 10 or so patients that we are the primary nurse for, do their care plans
etc. I will admit transitioning to the primary nurse role was difficult for me, I was so used to managing multiple patients and taking care of everything that it was hard for me to just see a situation and not address it.
The problem comes in that if I do anything with any of her patients, I am apparently not doing it right. The flip side is... If I don't address an issue with one of her patients then I should have done something about it. She disagrees with me infront of patients and other staff. Sometimes it seems like she would say the sky was purple just because I said it was blue. As I stated earlier I respect her knowledge and skill in an area that I am not as experienced in, but at the same time I feel I deserve respect for the nursing experience I do have.
I try every single day to do my best and help out where I can. I have told this nurse and the other nurses that I work with to please just let me know if I am doing something that is wrong, or if I could do it differently to just tell me. I have ADD and sometimes my helpfulness gets the best of me, I have made it clear that if I am stepping on their toes or whatnot just to tell me. I take constructive critism well, and would listen to whatever they had to say or suggest.
I have tried to talk to this nurse to figure out what the issue is, and she avoids it. I am usually not a rude person, but honestly I want to look at her and tell her to drop the "holier than thou gods gift to dialysis nursing" attitude. I am tired of going to work with her and she talks and laughs with everyone but me, she actually ignores me unless she is disagreeing with me or telling me what I should or shouldn't have done with her patients.
I realize this is long, and when rereading it I sound like a whiney 15 year old. I am sorry for that but I am at my wits end!!
Mar 11, '13
by bebbercorn, BSN
Maybe the issue is that you precepted her? Maybe she doesn't take constructive criticism well, and what you construed as a helpful comment, she took another way. I think just keep doing what you're doing, except maybe stop the effort at being her friend and keep it strictly professional for a while. When she tells you something you did wrong, thank her for taking the time to address it and leave it at that. Smile and return to your work. Hopefully with time, she'll come around.
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