Stuttering Stupid Nurse - page 4
So...I'm not looking for sympathy or anything. I think I just need to get this out. If you judge me for my decision then you judge me but know that I am hurting inside and feel hopeless. I have... Read More
Jun 29, '12I stutter at time too, especially when I'm stressed or nervous. I think what helps me most is trying to keep calm (deep breathes, etc) and talking slower. I'm sorry people were making fun, as it is not professional and is quite rude. The anxiety is what prompts it; from there fear of stuttering kicks in and then you feel the way that you've explained. Like others have said, speech therapy might help...but maybe you could find a method that works for you.
Jun 29, '12I'm so sorry to hear this. I agree with other posters - seek therapy and see if that helps.
I think a major contributing factor for triggering your stuttering is the fact that you're a new grad. Be as confident as you can in every situation. Also when you encounter patients, let this concern be known ahead of time so they know that you are not stupid or dumb.
Wishing you the best of luck.
Jun 30, '12I have ADHD and have had it since I can remember. In school I was made fun of all the time because I could never concentrate (teacher would call on me and I never knew the answer or what we just talked about and was punished frequently for it) and constantly failed every test and quiz because I just couldn't remember anything. I got on medication my last year of high school and it was like night and day. When I started college I got off the medication because I was embarrased to be "old" and taking ADHD meds. People can really mentally beat you down, but it made me stronger. What I learned is that my condition is not my fault and if there are meds that help me then I am going to take them. Like, JazzRN said yoga and meditation really helped me and I only take a low dose now.
I applaud your courage to open up about it and have sympathy for the hurt you're feeling. I hope you can find something that works for you.
Jun 30, '12Thank you everyone. This has really helped. You have no idea how nice it has been to get this out and to have such a great response.Last edit by pearlgarden on Jun 30, '12 : Reason: addition
Jun 30, '12If you had high BP or diabetes you would keep taking your meds. As long as you are not dragged down by them, then take them.
Seek out a support group in your city. And get whatever type of therapy is appropriate for your problem.
Go back to your job, make an appointment with HR and TELL THEM what happened. They need to know how their employees acted. Do not be afraid, this will empower you for the future. If they allow you to come back to work then do it.
Take up singing lessons, or any rhythmic activity.
Keep writing - you have some talent there!
Jun 30, '12Keep this in the front of your mind. Your patients need you. They don't care if you have short hair or long. If your tall or short. If you stutter or not. They care only that you are professional, intelligent, caring, and can help. People, especially nurses, who want to single other out for their flaws are in the wrong profession. You are a nurse. You make a difference in people's lives just by showing up for work everyday.... Ignore ignorance and in fact, I would report the person who made that comment to HR.
Jun 30, '12Pearlgarden,
I'm a speech therapist (retired from university teaching). It is perfectly understandable why your fluency is more compromised in a new career and dealing with people like your very ignorant and insensitive co-worker. You have received a LOT of good information from this list, with only a few things I'll add. It is not defeat to talk to your doctor about whether meds for anxiety are appropriate for you. If they helped in the past, they may be helpful now as well. Some who stutter find meds for anxiety helpful in managing their stuttering. The suggestion to visit with a speech therapist is also a very good idea. In fact, you might check if your hospital has an SLP you can visit with. There are also support organizations for stuttering. The National Stuttering Association is excellent and has many support groups around the country. Their website is National Stuttering Association (NSA): Stuttering Help. In fact, next week there is a national conference in Florida where about 500 people from many walks of life, including nurses and medical doctors that I know, will be meeting for learning, support, and continuing friendships. Also, find places to learn as much as you can about stuttering. There is a LOT of information online. The Stuttering Foundation (http://stutteringhelp.org) also has a lot of good, and inexpensive, material, including a couple of things you might consider running off to give to the ignorant co-worker - How to react when speaking with someone who stutters (How to React) and Stuttering: Answers for Employers (Employers).
Judy KusterLast edit by Esme12 on Oct 6, '13 : Reason: TOS/solicitation
Oct 6, '13Hi,
I'm not a nurse, but I am someone who stutters. I know exactly what you're talking about and know how painful it is. People are mean to begin with, but they're even meaner (a lot meaner) to people who stutter. People who don't stutter themselves don't understand this.
As I would imagine you already know, speech therapy doesn't work. Stuttering less is not a realistic option.
However, here are some encouraging things to keep in mind:
1) As far as dealing with your coworkers/supervisors goes: you are protected by the law. Approach HR and tell them what happened. Those b-----s don't need to like you, but they do need to treat you respectfully. As a law abiding citizen, you are entitled to that.
2) As far as dealing with your patients goes: believe me, they care much more about the service you can provide to them than whether or not you stutter. Try telling them in advance that you stutter. For example, when you walk into their room for the first time, say, "Hi, I'm your nurse and I'm here to help you. I also just want to let you know that I have a speech disorder and so may speak slowly." That will take a lot of the pressure off. Then, focus on being the best nurse you can be. So many times, nurses act passive aggressively toward their patients. I've had horrible experiences with most nurses I've interacted with. You sound like a truly good person. A good nurse with a warm smile on her face and stutter is infinitely better than an evil b---- who speaks fluently and with attitude.
3) As far as dealing with the unavoidable pain of stuttering goes: remember that it will get better. As you become more familiar with your environment and the people you interact with, your stuttering will decrease back to what is normal for you.
Also, don't ever joke or imply that you are stupid ever again ("Stuttering Stupid Nurse"). You write well. I can tell just from reading your post that you're intelligent and goodhearted. If you didn't stutter, you would probably be a pediatrician. You're orders of magnitude better than the nasty b-----s who you work with.
Stuttering is our struggle. Other people (including so-called "speech therapists") simply can't understand what we go through. It is our daily life and death battle.
Just so you know, I dealt with the same issues when I first graduate from school and started working. I ended up quitting my job and going back to school for computer science so that I could get a job as a software engineer and not need to talk at work. I have a great job in which I'm comfortable now, but I was defeated. I spent my whole life thinking I could eventually overcome my stuttering and I tried everything. I put more effort into overcoming my stuttering than everything else in my life combined (and I'm pretty accomplished). I recognize that I lost that battle. I've been a software engineer for several years now. Just a couple years ago, I came up with a strategy for dealing with my stuttering that has helped me a lot and has revolutionized my ability to speak. I'm not going to share that strategy with you here, but whatever you strategy is, good luck to you. I wish I could give you a hug and slap those nasty b-----s across their faces.
Oct 6, '13First off, don't ever, ever, call yourself stupid. Your fluency disorder is not a reflection of your intelliegence as a nurse or as a person.
I echo the pp's who have directed you to a speech therapist. Your MD can refer you, and most are part of hospital's PT/Rehab departments. There are so many adults who have this issue (kids too). When "put on the spot" I can often word search. Can think of a million things I could say after the fact, but I am more comfortable writing as opposed to giving spot on answers. I am working on it. Lots of adults have conversation issues. Interestingly, with all of the texting, computer, online communication, this is becoming more and more of an issue for a number of people in various occupations.
The co-workers who made such inappropriate remarks are cruel. I feel for the poor patients that they care for. As I am sure you know, that is all about THEIR deficiencies as humans as opposed to your speech issues.
Oct 6, '13look, you made it through school
the stuttering clearly can't stop you
forgive those who have, are and will use their gift
of speech to hurt and inflict pain
and proof them wrong
i couldn't help think of Rocky Balboa when i read your article
your like Rocky to me
Oct 17, '13I stutter-it's the result of a head injury I had when I was child. I also started having eye problems-my head took a good hit on a fireplace when I was about 3. I started kindergarten a year late because I had to spend a year in speech therapy learning how to talk again. Now as an adult I still stutter and also have a habit of talking a mile a minute when I am stressed or tired. My Mom used to tell me to "slow down and start again". I remember one instance when someone did a "porky pig" impression of me while I was talking to her. Rude but I think that says more about them and their upbringing than it does about my stutter. I think she thought she was being "cute". I used to work in retail and was in customer service which meant I had to tell others over the intercom if they had a call or page people. Not fun for a person who stutters or rambles on.
This thread is over a year old and I hope the OP has found the confidence at her job to put others in their place. In my case the person is usually very embarrassed by their rude and insensitive behavior after I tell them I had a brain injury as a child so that's why I have a speech disorder. It does amaze me that the people who are making fun of her work in the medical field and should realize that stuttering is nothing to be made fun of.
Mar 13, '15I came across your post as I searched for tips to help with stuttering as a nurse. I am a new RN about to start my first job in a couple weeks, and I have stuttered all my life. While I have been able to control it most of the time, it definitely comes out in stressful and professional situations. I am so sorry to hear that people can be so cruel at this stage in your life. I have not heard such cruelty since high school. Although I am prepared to hear it again soon, because unfortunately ignorant and rude people are out there! I have a new strategy to help me. Instead of being embarrassed or apologetic, I am going to turn it around on them. Make fun of me? Shame on you! I will hold my head up high. I know I can't do this with a patient, but if a colleague chooses to be rude, I plan on standing up for myself. We'll see if I actually get the courage I hope you have found peace from this situation and you are still practicing. I just wanted you to know that there are other stutterers out there struggling along side you.