is it normal that some are hostile?

[biledrinker]

well i have not personally "worked" as a salaried employee in a hospital, but only as a nursing student.

i hate to say this but during the times i worked there (taking care of patients), i have not encountered a toxic patient,

or a patient who disobeyed me, or was mean to me.

the nurses who worked there were hostile, its like i could not approach them without fear in my heart, even if i ask

nicely, its really rare to see a nurse who smiles and stuff. maybe out of 10 theres 2 who smiles and i can approach without

being paranoid. some doctors looked mean but they at least dont say anything.

nursing is my second course, my first is in the computer industry, being a male dominated field, there were 2-3 girls in class and i was the only female in a class of 15 in one subject. i never encountered hostilities or fears. everyone seemed to be in one mood, either neutral or happy/whatever.

i went into pre-med for one semester and i had to drop out because i failed one subject, but i was doing really well beyond my expectations ..not to brag or anything i really dont think im the sharpest tool in the shed.

so i did nursing and all was nice until i stepped in the hospital, being of INFP personality i find it pretty easy, i never understood what the F is a "toxic patient".

everyone seemed to one up each other, i think it "defeats the purpose" of being a nurse.i eventually graduated tho (albeit it was painful). i dont think i had good experience with my peers.

i had a good experience w/ patients, the elderly i took care of and spent time with, i still think of them and its been 2 years. i remember one of my first patients..a guy who had a risk for cardiomegaly..

i had a big incident report too, that erupted into one big scandal ..guess what..i wrote on the wrong sheets. the sheets were basically the same color . instead of writing on the nursing notes i wrote on the doctors notes. the doc's note is supposed to be blue in color not gray. they scared me to death and i had to write a full page essay that i was aware of what i did and i was sorry about it. all my life i never made a mistake in dosage of medicines or anything, i always double check things. just those darn notes. they lowered my grade for it too, to a near-failing grade.

one of the worst experience that i vividly remember like it was yesterday: being insulted in front of a patient cause i didnt know how to properly look at the dextrose, how much was left, consumed, i was new to it obviously..i wish they would just patiently teach me ONE OR 2X and i will understand it. i really dont think insulting someone in front of a patient is good because the patient will think im an idiot so why should i be taking care of him/her?

second was being insulted and yelled at in front of my peers and other nurses because of a mistake again that couldve been resolved in a private discussion. i really cannot forget that event in my life, honestly dont think anyone should be treated like that.

i assume most of the nurses get into the field cause of the money, obviously, but in my heart i believe one shouldnt be doing if they hate it. if you hate your job, do something else.

[kelll]

Not all nurses are bad. Many of us go into precepting newer nurses to be a resource and help to the next generation. Sometimes the newcomers simply do not understand the issues or fully understand the impact of certian decisions have on safety for the patient. It is also frusterating to not have the time or manpower to teach properly. however you should never be degraded by anyone in front of a patient.

[xtxrn, ASN, RN]

Well, by the OP, it sounds like nursing was a "downgrade" from the initial desired education of med school. Maybe others pick up on the desire to not really be a nurse?

There are hostile people everywhere....why not nursing? Doesn't make it "OK", but it is what it is.