Confessions Of A Nurse With Poor Interpersonal Skills - page 6

I've heard that the initial step to solving a problem is admitting that you have one in the first place. Well, my name is TheCommuter and I have a problem with interpersonal skills. Gulp. For... Read More

  1. Visit  PRICHARILLAisMISSED profile page
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    Hi Commuter.

    I've been thinking about this thread. Maybe your interpersonal skills aren't as bad as you think they are. I've read and participates several of your threads and you come across fine over the computer. And a lot of the "Flaws" that you have, I think most of us have them to some degree. I know I do. And people seem to like me in my personal life.
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    Hi Commuter.

    I've been thinking about this thread. Maybe your interpersonal skills aren't as bad as you think they are. I've read and participates several of your threads and you come across fine over the computer. And a lot of the "Flaws" that you have, I think most of us have them to some degree. I know I do. And people seem to like me in my personal life.
    It's true that I might be describing myself harshly.

    However, others have given me an idea of how I come across. My best friend, former classmates, and some acquaintances have said that I often have a flat affect and speak with a monotone tone of voice. Over the years, coworkers have described me as 'quiet.'

    I also have an invisible wall that prevents me from connecting with people on an emotional level. I simply do not want to open my heart and soul and get too close to anyone. Moreover, I struggle with empathy and have difficulty feeling sorry for people, even if they're in pain, desperate, grieving, or in dire straits.
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    I also have an invisible wall that prevents me from connecting with people on an emotional level. I simply do not want to open my heart and soul and get too close to anyone. [B
    Moreover, I struggle with empathy and have difficulty feeling sorry for people, even if they're in pain, desperate, grieving, or in dire straits.[/B]
    Not sure what to do about the first part of this, except to say that this is fairly common. I myself am like this, but it hasn't really been a problem. I find that yes, it does take a while for me to consider someone new as being close to me, and vice versa. But I also find that after I actually do take the time to get to know someone new and decide that I like them (For lack of better term), these relationships tend to really last. Think quality over quantity But as for the bold face, I don't believe that empathy is absolutely necessary. It may help, but it's not the end all be all. What is necessary, I believe is the understanding that these ppl are in pain,desperate, grieving, or in dire straits. As long as the understanding is there, you can respond accordingly.

    Try not to beat yourself up over a perceived lack of empathy.
  4. Visit  Nurse J1112 profile page
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    This is exactly my problem and why I was fired.....It really bothers me and I feel like such a failure. But I just cant seem to make my fake smiles, interest etc appear genuine....I dont know what am I going to do but reading this makes me think my career is already over before it began....I dont now what to do :/
    At least I know I am not alone
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    This is exactly my problem and why I was fired.....It really bothers me and I feel like such a failure. But I just cant seem to make my fake smiles, interest etc appear genuine....I dont know what am I going to do but reading this makes me think my career is already over before it began....I dont now what to do :/
    At least I know I am not alone
    Perhaps some social skills training is in order? If a lack of interpersonal skills is contributing to your employment being terminated, something must be done on your end.

    In ultra-competitive job markets where many nurses are competing for a limited number of job openings, interviewers gravitate toward hiring candidates who can display evidence of likeability and a solid foundation of basic social skills.

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