backstabbing co workers

Im a nursing who happens to work on a labor and delivery unit and I'm telling you that you are going to find those types of people at every hospital. They kinda have there own cliques. I've worked at three hospitals trust me I understand. Pray and move on.

Sometimes trying to talk it out with bullies doesn't work. There are those bullies who are going to bully until the day they die.

I work evenings, and we have 2 bullies on the dayshift, when they get together they talk about everyone else. They think no one else works but them.

Another nurse on days, who actually started out on evenings then went to days... got into it with one of these bullies. The bully threatened to slap her and told her that she if fell outside that door onto that concrete sidewalk she wouldn't stoop to help her up. The other nurse said she knew that she [the bully] wouldn't help her, and that she [the bully] has hated her since the first day she came to work there. The nurse being bullied has recently come back to the evening shift. And she is a joy to work with. I don't understand how anyone could hate her. We don't have any fussing and fighting on evenings.....I thank God that right now we have a wonderful crew to work with on pm's. But the bullies remain on the dayshift and some of their bullying does spill over onto evenings, because they like to talk about everyone.

I'm glad I am as far from it as I can get right now.

I think taking the high road and remaining professional is always best. After first party communication, deal with your supervisor and get out of the loop.---Bug

My heart goes out to Liljsmom02. First i want to thank you for your dedication as a nurse. This world wouldn't be the same with out people like you. I hear your riggor and then find that you are pregnant and on top of that dealing with another nurse who should be assasinated, (I hope he's reading this...!) How can you be spoiling a child when you work a fultime blank blankety Jooooooobbbbbbbbbbbb!!!! Where is he? Let me at him? Just let me get my hands around his little dweeby throat! You just keep your chin up Superwoman, because that's what you are, a super woman! I predict that you'll have your baby and be out of there soon and somewhere that you'll be much happier. Good luck and God Bless you.

I am a nurse aide right now (starting nursing school in the fall) and have been having a similar problem. I get along with all the nurses on my unit and can tolerate and understand someone having a bad day. But there is one nurse on my floor who, in my opinion, is abusive towards me. She talks to me like a dog, snaps and me and gives me death glares when I work with her. I have told one of my fellow aides about this and she said that the nurse has bipolar disorder and is very moody and irritable. I work very hard and just want to come to work and care for my patients, not fight with people. Yesterday, I came home from work and cried after working with her. This is the first time in my life that I have had to deal with someone like this and I am really having trouble standing up for myself. She seems very volatile and I am afraid of what she would do if I did stand up to her. I want to go to my nurse manager, but part of me would be terrified if she knew I had complained about her because I know that she would confront me or complain to other nurses about me. I used to love my job and now I get sick before I go to work for fear of working with her. Does anyone have any advice? I'm really trying not to take it personally and let it roll off my back, but again, she is beyond nasty.

Emilynurseaide:
If you are truly dealing with someone who is exhibiting mental illness, there is nothing you can do to change the situation with her. You have to work on your reaction to her behavior. And take the advice from the other posts on this thread. Document, document, document any contacts with her that are inappropriate. Avoid her as much as possible. And think about what steps you might be able to take to insure that it is clear that you are indeed following your job duties as you should. If you have to, take your notes on her treatment of you to the next supervisor. And learn some relaxation exercises, sounds like you need them, from being around her. Good luck.

i am qje999, and i am happy to say that i have retired from this hosp. i love my retirement and don't miss it at all and all the nasty co workers and a nasty head nurse that is only nice to people like her sorority sisters and people that visit her at her home. i have not been back since i retired. my life has turned for the best as i dont have to deal with any of this anymore. i had been here 20 yrs, thats enough.

emily you shouldnt have to take that from her. you need to report her . just cause she is bi polar doesn;t give her the right to abuse you. if she is that unstable what if she went off on a patient. she could end up hurting someone.

I had a co-worker and my NM against me at one point. Headhunting was the term I gave it.
All I can say is document, document, document...and by all means know who your REAL friends are.
I had a very smart woman once tell me to keep a journal of my troubles, including times/dates/and others involved.
This information and my encouragement from my real friends, I stood up against them both.
The end result was the NM resigned...seems she had not lived up to her job committments... and the RN was fired and actually, she had to be escorted out of the building.
BTW, the very smart woman that gave me the tip to document was the VP of Nursing.
I now give this advice.

For me , I would call them VERY DIFFICULT co workers....luckily the one I have dealt with is NOT my co worker, but on the day shift. She is an LPN (getting her RN) But she is difficulty with all of us...like she is the SMARTER one.

She will ALWAYS have MORE questions to ask no matter how good your report is...


I don't have to deal with her that much luckily since she is in school. DREAD when she gets out!

My one charge nurse always says WE DON'T EAT OUR YOUNG.... I LOVE her... helps alot. We can learn alot from that. With the shortage of nurse we have to be alot KINDER to one another....