I will being starting my BSN-RN this summer. I am currently finishing up my preques for the program. I already have a BS in Finance and computer networking degree so I will be the accelerated program. I currently run a IT network for an accounting and retirement distribution firm. Its only a 48 user network so I have everything running smooth and they are nice enough to let me come and go as I please for classes. The catch is I kept everything a secret as to what field I was going in till I wanted to make sure It was my calling because sadly to say I knew it was going to be a shock for most people here at my work. Two weeks ago I told the head office manager lady who I have to let know what my contact hours where and why for business purposes in an email. It was a basic emailing letting her know my situation class wise. I also as a side note told her the field I was going because ironically she has a daughter who is a nurse and knows a good friend of mine who has been helping me sense she works as nurse also. Well The office manager thought it would be interesting to just send a office wide email with a copy of my email and telling everyone what I was going to school for. That was annoying to me as I am a intensely private person and believe in remaining out of others personal lifes but oh well brushed it off. Today the issue I had is all the questions and smart ass remarks. One of my the male partners asked in front of some of the staff that if I would clean up his office toliet sense I needed to get use to doing such. He has also asked in private a smart side comment "You do like women don't you?". I love my new found direction in life and will leave this place as soon as I can for a more supportative environment but for right now I just can't finanically afford to bite the hand that feeds me. Its hard dealing these stereotypes of nurses.
Also on a side note: One of the ladies here told me its ok "office manager's name" told me two weeks ago so we already knew. I can only assume her daughter who works at a local hosiptal with one of my friends told her. I detest office gossip and people whose who day is spent prying into others business.
Oh as to the question he asked in private I just commented "I think I do, well some are ok but I have some great guy friends too" and walked out. I am fully straight and have no judgement or feeling towards gay people but I felt, hell! Let him feel uncomfortable around me and maybe he will drop all the sarcasitic remarks.
Just ranting and sharing a bit of frustration.
Ahh judgemental people helping to piss me off day by day!
Oct 5, '06
There will always be those people that we have to deal with. I feel your pain because I am intensely private as well, and left my last job as it would interfere with school too much. Being only 1 out of 5-6 men in the facility and where most of them work in housekeeping/maintenance, I heard a few comments but I didn't care. Let them be afraid of having a man when they get sick...I give kick ass care if I do say so myself! Plus I'll have a in with the ladies and how they think after being around this many women for so long!!
Oct 16, '06
Ah, who gives a crap what they think anyway. Most people respect you after a while for your choice, it's just the ignorant and clueless that are a pain. Just roll with the punches, get through school, and laugh while financially secure, as your "friends" get outsourced and downsized. No job in the medical field is less respectable than any other job. Heck, I am a RN in the neonatal ICU taking care of babies, changing diapers, bottle feeding, teaching parents how to care for babies. And I get more awed looks and respect than stupid remarks. I make more money and love my job more than most of the friends I graduated with. A few of them told me they wish they had gone into nursing. Take Care, and best of luck in school!
Oct 18, '06
Quote from SteveRN21
I am a RN in the neonatal ICU taking care of babies, changing diapers, bottle feeding, teaching parents how to care for babies.
Oct 20, '06
Hey man you will get use to the ridicule, they probably say more than that when you're not around...it also can be envy. And that guy shouldn't have asked you in private if you're straight/gay, Its gay for him to ask you your preference/availability lol. I was putting on hand lotion when a female student asked for some, She then said is this womens lotion? I couldn't do nothing but laugh.....but i didn't entertain her ignorance, even though she's wasn't the epitome of what i'd consider feminine lol. Just ignore it or dish out sarcasm, you will sooner or later.
Oct 20, '06
I'm in a 2nd career program after working on the shop floor as an IE for about 10 years in SoEast Michigan. On my way out, I got very little in the way of gender/poop jokes. I'm assuming it was because all the guys - both bargaining unit and white collar - were keenly aware of two things 1) I'll have a steady job next year, 2) many of them won't.
Nov 2, '06
Quote from Howie781
One of my the male partners asked in front of some of the staff that if I would clean up his office toliet sense I needed to get use to doing such. He has also asked in private a smart side comment "You do like women don't you?". I love my new found direction in life and will leave this place as soon as I can for a more supportative environment but for right now I just can't finanically afford to bite the hand that feeds me. Its hard dealing these stereotypes of nurses.
It always amazes me how these so called
professional types tend to exhibit such "junior high school" behavior.
As long as you find your choices rewarding and fulfilling, it doesn't matter what some pea-brained jerks think about it. You've found purpose in your life, and their behavior towards you most likely results from regrets related to their own internal hollowness.
Congrats, and good luck with your studies!
Feb 27, '07
Just a little update for those who offered words of encouragement. I am still at that job though be it I have accepted a reduction in pay by reducing my availabe hours. I have already had several meetings making them aware that I will most likely not be there past this May because I got my ACCEPTENCE LETTER for the accelerated BSN program to start this May! Any how I have 3 weeks till I am done with my pre-reqs and so far have mostly high B's borderline A's. Its been hard and is sure to get harder. I have almost concretely decided to use the available options I have such as taking out a FASA loan for the 14 month program and living with my parental unit "Mom". All kidding aside she is great and supports the move as long as I lay some new tile in her sun room and do some small renovations around her house. I will lose most of my social life but from what I have heard and been reading about accelerated BSN-RN tracks its all consuming for the large part any how. Luckily I am single and no kids so just time wise I feel its best for me suck up my pride do what I have to do to achieve my goal. Plus just buying groceries and doing some stuff around the house doesn't sound all that bad for a free place to live. Everything is falling into place so far.
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