Age Issues and The Modern Male Nurse - page 3

by Rocky09

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I have my fi-aid stuff under control, I have a school picked out, a BSN program lined up, and the ultimate goal of becoming a Psychiatric Nurse Practitioner in mind. I'm 48 years old. Am I insane? If so, why? If not, why not?... Read More


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    I need to agree with many of the posters who say to look past the age issue ....... OK, I've already changed my mind. Stop thinking about it as a disability / disadvantage and start considering it your SECRET WEAPON. I earned my first degree 23 years ago. I had an OK GPA (3.01) but nothing great. Now as a mature student, I have a 4.0 GPA (and Anatomy, Physiology, and Microbiology are done with). We're more organized, focused, and dedicated to the completion of our goal. Almost every older student excels above the children in class. (that's why even though we're 20 years older, the smarter ones still ask us to join their study groups) Focus on that and realized that you can achieve whatever you set your mind to.

    I also agree with other posters who state that we still have so much still to learn so we should keep our minds open and be willing to adjust our goals as we experience new opportunities.

    Best of luck!
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    I have a good friend who graduated from an NP program last June at the ripe old age of 58! And I am currently in a grad-entry program and there are 6 in my cohort over the age of 45. Even if you're crazy, you're in good company!
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    I agree, I don't think you are crazy at all. I'm 39, almost 40 and just starting. I plan to become a NP as well.
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    I'm 57, now into my last year BN in New Zealand. I'm more focussed than I've ever been, and absolutely digging my degree, it's NEVER to late to learn, and you'll be confronted with stuff you never knew existed, it'll take you to rock bottom and back again, enjoy the ride, lol.
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    Quote from Bob_N_VA
    I appreciate the sentiment that I'm not crazy. But I would suggest to you that it is not their behavior that is ostracizing them but maybe your perception of them as "Old Students". They are probably as old as your parents or grandparents and I can imagine it is a bit weird for you to think of them as your peers in class. I would give them some credit for having gotten this far in life and having the fortitude to go back to school for a new career.

    As a nurse, it will be up to you to be open to your patients needs, so why not start now and make sure they feel welcome. They might surprise with how much they can offer you in return.
    I agree. There are two men over 50 in our class and they bring a great perspective. Of course, I'm 39 so I'm on the older side as well so I might be biased. And it's an accelerated program where everyone has previous degrees, so the "young" students are in their early to mid 20s.
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    I would love to think the way you think, age is not an issue, perhaps race is , the reality sometimes reveals different attitudes and truth against minor things like ages or races in this nursing 'education' field; I am an immigrant from East Asia 25 years ago, grew up in HI, got BS in Electrical Engineering from Penn State Univ by buring midnight oil for 5 years, then now studing RN clinical in HACC to enhence my dream of becoming bioengineer, my plan is to learn pathophysiology through the experience of RN clinical, but one of the instrutors constantly showes me cold face and responses when I need instructions from her, I feel the tension of uncertain thoughts, that thoughts of speaking with accets makes her unhappy, inl my years working in engineering field, speaking with accent is viewed as talents and intenational capacity to engineering work force, but to nursing or this particular instructor, it seems a negative mark for nursing students, I wonder what ' culturely competent care ' actually mean in this nursing teaching class, perhaps I am over sensitive to this response, perhaps I misinterpret the reaction from her to me, right now, I do find myself very disturbed by this educational experience, is it because CC's educational quality is as said a 13th grade level, or this is an arbitury problem hidden and negletible in educational institute, can I trust the future nurses taught by this kind of instructors and graduated from it. should I quit the RN clinical, I am there mainly to gain insight to find approach to design good medical devices, but this exprience really got me to think the trust on the nursing educations.
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    Quote from ygv101
    I would love to think the way you think, age is not an issue, perhaps race is , the reality sometimes reveals different attitudes and truth against minor things like ages or races in this nursing 'education' field; I am an immigrant from East Asia 25 years ago, grew up in HI, got BS in Electrical Engineering from Penn State Univ by buring midnight oil for 5 years, then now studing RN clinical in HACC to enhence my dream of becoming bioengineer, my plan is to learn pathophysiology through the experience of RN clinical, but one of the instrutors constantly showes me cold face and responses when I need instructions from her, I feel the tension of uncertain thoughts, that thoughts of speaking with accets makes her unhappy, inl my years working in engineering field, speaking with accent is viewed as talents and intenational capacity to engineering work force, but to nursing or this particular instructor, it seems a negative mark for nursing students, I wonder what ' culturely competent care ' actually mean in this nursing teaching class, perhaps I am over sensitive to this response, perhaps I misinterpret the reaction from her to me, right now, I do find myself very disturbed by this educational experience, is it because CC's educational quality is as said a 13th grade level, or this is an arbitury problem hidden and negletible in educational institute, can I trust the future nurses taught by this kind of instructors and graduated from it. should I quit the RN clinical, I am there mainly to gain insight to find approach to design good medical devices, but this exprience really got me to think the trust on the nursing educations.
    A couple of wow's. This is an old thread for sure, but still very relevant. The other has to do with this posters peceptions of nursing school at I guess is the community college level. I'm still hanging in, just passed the halfway point but still very engaged and enjoying the journey. The more time I spend with patients, the more I become convinced that having some years under my belt isn't a disadvantage, but much more an advantage. I relate much better to the older patients because in many ways I feel their pain (literally) as well as empathizing with their situations in a place that most folks would rather not be in. I think I do pretty well with the younger folks as well, maybe I'm just more laid back or easier to talk to. Either way, when I am in the hospital, I am a happy camper, enjoying the interactions and learning as much as I can.

    And maybe that brings me to the second part, a response to the poster here. Honestly, I cant say whether its either the instructors or the student here that has the issue. But I will key in on one point. Wanting to become an RN to gain knowledge of pathophys so you can move on to bioengineering misses one big point. Please correct me if I am wrong, but it sounds like you are there for your own purposes and not for the patients. Lots of folks try nursing out because it is "a solid career" and it can be. But without the conscious decision that you are in it to help other people misses the point entirely. Maybe your instructors already know or sense that. Except for caring for other people, why would you want to put yourself in this type of environment ? If I'm wrong, then please respond. I'll gladly eat my own words.

    Bob
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    Quote from Rocky09
    I have my fi-aid stuff under control, I have a school picked out, a BSN program lined up, and the ultimate goal of becoming a Psychiatric Nurse Practitioner in mind. I'm 48 years old. Am I insane? If so, why? If not, why not? Should I consider another avenue, like Clinical Counseling at my age? Thoughts . . .
    Rocky,

    Yep, you are quite clearly crazy. I'm 46 and will be starting pre-reqs in the next couple of months. 46 is obviously the upper age cutoff and I personally think someone as old as you has no business whatsoever doing something valuable and fulfilling with their life. The personal and professional experience you've gained in previous jobs and other situations will serve no good purpose whatsoever as you proceed through school or after you become a NP. Your dreams of helping people and having a positive impact are so silly as to be almost laughable......give it up.....please put these childish dreams away.....for your own good and the good of those who you might help if by some incredible twist of fate, you should actually achieve your dreams.
    </sarcasm>

    s
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    well you probably have around 28 years to live (if you make to the average life expectancy in 2011 (76 for males.)) A BSN program will take about 4 years, and then final prep for the NCLEX-RN (several months), you are looking at 19 years of nursing considering you take 5 years off for retirement, so no you are not crazy at all for wanting to do this. You still have time to have a long fulfilling career/life as an RN.
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    Hi, I'm in my mid fifties and six months into my first year on a Nursing degree. Working with peers that are younger than my own children worried me. How would they react, would they feel awkward with me around, would they even talk to me? and if they did would I understand them??? Well it turns out I was the only one who had any such hang up and that disappearred in my first week. Dive in head first and you'll be ok.


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