I've been and RN for 16 years. After graduation, I worked on a med/surg floor for 1 year then went into home health. That is where I stayed until 3 years ago when I went back into hospital nursing, med/surg. I did pretty well getting back into the swing of hospital nursing, however, I do find it very stressful and physically as well as mentally challenging. I have been handling it well for the most part however. I am in my late 40s.
However, the last several months, on those very stressful days, (you know what I'm talking about, when you have admissions, discharges, pt procedures, pt's going bad and being transferred, and those kinds of things happening all at once), I've noticed that the stress is almost unbearable. I feel like I am going to explode on the inside at times (I'm not talking about an outward outburst, I just feel a horrible turmoil on the inside). On the days so much is going on, I feel very inadequate as a nurse because I feel there is too much going on that I can't keep a handle on it. I am actually, a good nurse.
Our patient ratio ranges anywhere from 5 to 7, rarely 8 to one nurse. Our patients are such high acuity sometimes and we do have many unruly patients at times.
I have, at times, gone to our assistant unit manager telling her of my stress level being very high during the times it has been, and she has always been understanding telling me to take a break. However, the other day, I had a horrible stress filled day with SO much going on, I felt I may crumple up in a corner somewhere and start crying or screaming or something. I just felt so overwhelmed all day long. However, I always manage to take care of my pts, get everything done, and manage to leave somewhat on time. I still don't feel good about my days work. Anyway, I talked with my husband about it on this horrible day and I told him I don't think I can go on working like this that the stress level is so high I don't think I can bear it anymore. He was very understanding and said whatever I have to do, we will do.
The next day on the way to work, I felt as if my body and mind had been in some kind of war or something. I took report, but didn't feel right. I saw a couple of patients, until my manager came in and I told her how I felt. She told me that I needed to see a doctor, which I did. She took me out of work for a week, put me on an antidepressant, and made an appt for me to see a psychologist. I told my unit manager this and she was very understanding and I got the papers for a medical leave. My appt with the psych is in a few days.
Right now I feel better, but that is knowing that I don't have to go back to work for several days. The med has me feeling a little jittery and restless, but at least I don't have depressing thoughts. Now I'm here at home trying to figure out where I want to go from here. I don't know whether or not to try the hospital again after my rest, new meds, and appt to the psch, or try to find something else. Something else in this economy will be hard to find, and even so, I don't know where else I would want to work. I got really sick of home health care nursing....so I don't want to go back to that. MD offices are also horribly stressful I would think.
Our finances are good, we have most of our bills payed for, one child married, but one child in college which we have to pay 12 K a year for (she had a partial scholarship). If we really had to, we can afford for me to not work for awhile. But during that time, I would lose my experience, and you have to actually work as a nurse to keep your license up. So I am left pondering some deep questions. Can I really take this anymore? And if I can't, what now? I hate to lose what I have worked so hard for, but I want to live also and not have some mental breakdown, which is what came so very near to happening. I have not adequatley described the horrible way I have been feeling and my anxiety level. But suffice it to say, it was unbearable. I have thoughts of this world being horrible, nothing good in it and all kinds of things.
I can tell everyone I worked with is stressed too, so it's not just me, but I'm the only one that it has affected in this way
Words of wisdom from anyone? I'm kind of tender right now, so please be gentle. :)
