My children made the choice for me

  1. So even with all the petty garbage going on at work I was still going to put on my big girl panties & woman up. But I couldn't woman up through this.

    My mother kept telling me how upset my oldest son was that I wasn't home, then the kicker. My oldest son asked my mother if *she* was his new mommy. I lost it & started crying hysterically. How could I do that to him? To both of my boys???

    My husband is out of town for months at a time due to his work & now I'm at work for over 12 hours, so he barely sees the both of us. I felt terrible. I know it's because I'm working but I still felt like I was neglecting my children. I had a difficult decision to make. Either stay at work & lose personally or quit work & lose professionally.

    I decided to quit my job, my kids are only young once & I didn't want to lose out on their first days of school or any school events. I know what that feels like because my dad was always working & never made it to any of mine. I don't want them to have 2 absent & constantly working parents.
  2. 2 Comments

  3. by   RN90
    Good for you. If you can afford financially, absolutely noble decision to take care of yr kids while they are young and needy. Many women do take off to raise young children and return to work at some point later. There is a lot you can do to keep abreast professionally while away from work if you intend to come back to the nursing career later. Best wishes to you and your family! I don't have kids but I am the breadwinner at the moment and do support kids in my extended family. If I could afford it, I would have long left what I do to pursue a different line of interest...
  4. by   llg
    OK ... so you don't want to work full time. That's fine. But I do recommend you find some part time work to "keep you hand in" nursing somehow. You may NEED a job later and not be able to get one if you completely disappear from nursing. You need to keep your skills current and yourself qualified for employment in the future.

    A part time job won't cause you or your family so much distress -- but it might save you (and them) in the years ahead if your finances change and you need to work to put food on the table and a roof over their heads. If it helps you (and them) feel better, take a portion of each paycheck and do something fun with it together as a family -- and save some for their college education. They will thank you later. You can do that without having to work full time.

    Teach your children that mommy and daddy go to work to pay the bills -- to pay for things like food and clothes and toys and the house, etc. Just don't work full time if that is not something you have to do and don't want to do. Seek a balance.