I'm been working as a new CNA for about a month now. It's hard work but time flies and I love it. One of the biggest challenges I've had to face is working side by side with all different sorts of people. When you think about it, it takes a special kind of person to do the work a CNA has to do. That person has to have the ability to withstand pungent yucky smells like c-diff and gangrene, horrible sights and sounds like gagging, vomiting, feet rotting off, and a stage 4 decubitis, and lots more crazy things. Our staff is a mixture of young, old, mothers, fathers, teens, all of different races and cultures, and in different stages of life. The unique blend makes for some misunderstandings and communication problems. I think that's what is almost always at the heart of any conflict.
A girl at work was training me and I shadowed her around for about a week and a half. After I passed the certification test and got to work alone we found ourselves on the same team. At this point she still treated me like an orientee and would order me to do things - "Get the vander, please", "Tuck the sheet under her, please" and etc. After about a week of biting my tongue I finally talked with her about it. I told her that I didn't really like being asked to do things all the time that I already had trained to do. I asked her to have patience with me and allow me to do things on my own instead of asking me to do every little thing and tacking on "please" to the end of it. She at first was very defensive and stand-offish and didn't speak to me for about 30 minutes. I broke the ice and asked her how her weekend was and then everything was fine. She hasn't asked me to do something silly since! We make a wonderful team and look after each other, helping our residents get the best care possible. She has picked up some of my more textbook techniques and I've picked up some of her short cuts and we've learned a lot from each other. Moral of the story is - confront him about it. Ask him why he's always looking over your shoulder. Make sure your tone is more curious and less defensive. Say it with a grin! Give him the benefit of the doubt and tell him that you admire his interest in care for the resident.
Good luck and hang in there!