Update to my last thread

[Nurse-To-Be-Joy]

I'm not generally a very open person. I like to keep my personal things private. But this, I can't deal with alone and have a hard time confiding in my friends in real life. So, any kinds words would be appreciated.

As I wrote before, I found out thursday that I was pregnant with my second baby. We were so excited. But then, I started spotting just barely with slight cramps. It was Labor Day, so I couldn't get to my doctor's office, so I had to go to the ER.

Good thing I did, because they finally found out that this pregnancy is ectopic.

So now I'm miserable. I just got out of the hospital, but the chemo drug they gave me to expel all the fetal tissues is still in my system, so I feel like crap. And if this doesn't work by my appointment next week, I have to have surgery to have my entire ovary removed.

I have to miss 2 days of class this week.... 2 lectures and 1 lab. My teachers are being great about it, though. They're going to let me make up the lab and my friend is taping the lectures for me.

I'm ordered bedrest, but my hubby doesn't get it. He keeps asking me to get up to get the phone, help put groceries away, etc. I don't know what to do. The doctor told HIM too that I am on to be on bedrest with only bathroom priviledges. I am so mad at him right now, I wish I could stay the week with my parents (but that's not feasible anyway).

So, sorry for being so long, but I just needed to get this out. Thanks for "listening."

[bcskittlez]

:crying2: We are crying with you.. and we will smile with you when things get better :wink2: :wink2:

[locolorenzo22, BSN, RN]

As a male, I think he is coping with the loss and the stress by the stage of denial. BE FIRM! The DR told you bed rest only....unless he went out and got a degree from the "Dr. Nick" street clinic, tell him that groceries usually get put away better with a set of strong arms behind them. He is probably scared and not used to doing what you do, thinking that you will/should be fine and that you doing those things will make you better. I'm with the others...Do to self as you would tell a patient to do...Thoughts/prayers/and hopes be with you....

Plus side, at least your school is understanding. We had a student just have a baby and they made her drop the course period.....

[Nurse-To-Be-Joy]

Thank you everyone for your kind words and sharing your experiences. No, they are not monitoring me every other day. I spent 3 days/2 nights in the hospital, and have a followup appointment next Thursday. My HCG levels had actually risen (from about 503 to 550) in those 3 days AFTER the methotrexate. So, I wish the appointment was sooner, but I haven't had TOO much pain and I'm feeling better with each day. I'll be going back to school on Monday. Hopefully, my body can handle it.

[shellsgogreen]

i know this is an incredibly tough time and not much anyone can say will ease the sadness - just wanted to say that my prayers are also with you