Quit nursing school due to head games.

[BioRN]

As some of you know, I had a strange clinical instructor the semester. If you don't know my situation, see post in the general discussion area from 1-18-03. Yesterday, I met with the instructor to clear up some things with her. She said I was unstable and needed help. I told her I was dropping and she said I couldn't drop out without an exit interview. I said that I would n't comply and went to the nursing program secretary and dropped out of school. The secretary said an exit interview wasn't necessary. This instructor was so controlling that she actually wanted to control my dropping out.

I am a normal mother of two with a 18 year fabulous work history in medical and biological research and a B.S. in Biology. I have never had an psych problems. How could a nursing instructor make these judgements after only knowing me for 5 days?

If this is nursing, you can count me out.

To all of you who have helped me through my prerequistes, I thank you. Good luck and I wish you all well. Thanks especially to JulieLPN, Mario, and Dr. Kate.

This is Bio never to be an RN signing off.

[mattsmom81]

Originally posted by MishlB

I have found that there are "old school" nurses, who believe in these scare tactics to see if you have got what it takes. Who is benefitting if you quit? Nobody, that's who. You need to reconsider, and get on with it. Don't feel sorry for yourself and FINISH!!! You can do it. After all, these nasty haggy people are not laying awake at night planning your demise...you know this don't you??

While I'm sure you meant to be supportive, I have reposted the entry to note there is no 'some' included in your statement.

You refer to 'old school' nurses who believe in scare tactics,' then later 'these nasty haggy people' both of which read like a generalized slam to older nurses. These words can make a young student fearful of older nurses and create generation barriers. Generalizations can perpetuate prejudice.

The OP does not mention her tormentor's age...you do.

There are good and bad in every group...can't we just leave it at that? I hope so.

[2banurse]

Originally posted by hobbes

I really think you should reconsider your choice to quit nursing. If nursing was a dream of yours and you quit your former job/career to pursue it, why let one person get in your way. I truly believe that anything worthwhile in life is not going to come easy. Trials and tribulations are part of life. Don't let one person have so much power over you. What would have happened if Albert Einstein had decided to give up on physics because a former teacher had proclaimed that he would never amount to anything? The point is to know yourself and know what you want out of life and don't let anybody stand in your way. Surely you don't want to look back while in your twilight years and regret not having pursued your dream because of one crazy instructor. Anyhow, best of luck in whatever you decide.

I totally agree. No one person should have the power to take away your dreams. Although it is probably true that there are some schools and some instructors that have lost sight about putting forward the best nurses they can and use scare tactics instead, the majority I feel want you to succeed. It is in a school's best interest to graduate students. If you, BioRN, decide not to look into other nursing schools, the desire can't be that strong to be a nurse. I do hope though that you give it another shot. Nursing school is only a very small percentage of your nursing career. I urge you to give it some more consideration before just giving up altogether.

Kris

[CseMgr1, ASN, RN]

I had a nursing instructor during my junior year in nursing school, who rifled through my and another classmate's papers while we doing clinicals one evening, then went to the Chairman of the Medical-Surgical department and told her we were "cheating" on our Major Care Plans. She tried to get both of us thrown out of school. The charges of course, were groundless....and they backed off, when my classmate threatened to bring a lawsuit, which would "shut their doors". Even though we were exonerated, I had cried for days afterwards, and it was only through the love and support of my husband (now my ex-husband), that I set foot back in that school. As it turned out, by the time I began my senior rotation, that irresponsible woman had disappeared into the woodwork.

What goes around....comes around, Biorn =).

[jgg765]

Hello,

Sorry to hear that why dont you just go to another school or talk to the Dean etc.

[BeautifulSteph]

I do not feel that many nursing students and new graduates are respected and that hypothesis comes from a statistical analysis that I discovered in a health discussion at Lakeridge Health Oshawa. Many of us are leaving because we are not included in healthcare decisions and we are surrounded in a negative environment with many senior nurses that scare us away from the profession. I can tell you that three potential amazing registered nurses were declined from third and fourth year for reasons that I disapprove of. If there is such a shortage of nurses, then why aren’t the schools being more supportive and more promoting? I almost quit nursing twice in my experience due to “brutal” nurses who told me that I will “never make it as a nurse.” I was told that it is my responsibility to gain experience in clinical and when I asked how I could do that without support, the answer was, “it is your responsibility to learn the skills.” I can continue to go on about this mistreatment. These negative situations have not only been experienced by me but by many of my nursing friends. I cannot stress enough how unfair people can be. If there is a shortage of nurses, nursing students should be getting the respect so that we have a desire to work in Canada. In my opinion, the United States has been attracting me more because they treat me like I am wanted.