I think I just need to vent or may need some positive reinforcement. I'm almost through with my first semester of the actual nursing program, I always thought I would be the most excellent student because I want it bad. Lately, I see there are others that nursing (clinicals) everything seems to come natural. I've been an aide for 2 years now and I know I have the heart and compassion for the job, but It seems like to me I'm missing something. I'm just not getting it like others do. I scored really high on critical thinking yet when I take critical thinking exercises you know the ones where the questions are open ended. I suck. I'm a hands on learner and it seems like they stress the books in my Nursing interventions class. I'm passing not by alot but still passing. I want to be a good nurse not a nurse that barely made it by. I love nursing. I think my need to have this as my second career and my axiety level because everthing is on the line is hurting me. When an instructor watches me do something I seem to not do it right. Am I alone here.
Apr 7, '09
therapeutic communication is a skill and not something we are born with. like any skill it takes practice, practice, practice. do you recall how many failed attempts at tying shoelaces that you made before you finally got it correct? do you remember how many times you fell off your bike before you finally mastered how to maintain your balance on it? are you young enough to recollect hair-raising moments behind the wheel of your car as you mastered all those little nuances of driving? well, welcome to the world of therapeutic communication. it is going to take you some time, probably years, to know exactly the right words to think up and get out of your mouth each and every time you need them. it sometimes takes years to become good at asking open-ended questions. do not stress. hang in there.
in my 6th year as an rn i was feeling like you are now. i was doing the tasks but felt i just wasn't good enough at it. it took me years to master ivs and that was easy compared to therapeutic communication! i felt that i just wasn't polished enough. i moved back home to ohio and went to school for my bsn. the program focused on communication and leadership because we were already licensed rns. it was drummed into us. i was still bad at it, but after i graduated i was promoted into supervision and management and that is where i really got the opportunity to practice those skills. if you don't take the initiative to work at these things you will never improve. i have to tell you that i grew up in a large family where no one asked open ended questions, we got yelled at on a regular basis and my mom was an authoritarian much like dr. laura and judge judy. i thought everyone in a position of authority acted that way and i was surprised to find that it was not the way to be if one wanted to keep their job. it took me years to unlearn the behaviors i learned growing up and to learn what school was teaching me.
nursing is a personal journey of growth and learning for each of us. looks like yours, much like mine, will focus for part of it around learning how to communicate with people. for me, in the beginning, i had to learn to listen to what people were saying. even if it takes you years, the important thing is that you approach this with a positive attitude.
Apr 7, '09
you are definitely not alone. I applaud your attidude about wanting to do it right. Schools have to be sure you pass their tests so that you can pass NCLEX, so there is a lot of emphasis on testing. My advice is to communicate with your instructors frequently and ask for ways to improve your studying, comprehension, etc. And quit comparing yourself to others -that is a waste of energy and you need all the energy you can get in nursing school. Good luck. Keep us posted.
Apr 7, '09
Thanks, I just heard another nurse tell her story about how rough of a time she had with two full time jobs and three kids also doing gen ed's while doing nursing classes and she made it. I have no way to measure my learning so far in the real world of nursing I hope I can be a great nurse.
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