My husband won't let me do bed baths - page 16

I told my husband that we are doing bed baths in lab on Friday. He looked at me strange and asked me why on earth I would want to do that. I told him that it is just something you do as a nurse. He... Read More

  1. by   turtles
    Yeah!
    Been there.... my ex husband started off by saying things like that - I couldn't do bed baths. He would phone me 8 times while I was in class and leave messages. When I called him back he would drill me about where I was and who was in my class, what guys were in my class. But he always told me he loved me at the end of it. It got worse and worse until he told me I wasn't allowed to hang out with my best girlfriend anymore cos she was a bad influence on me!!!! When he wanted to move to the other side of the country and started yelling and throwing things at me, I decided there was no fixing this situation and got me and my daughter out of there. I have been happily seperated for a year now and I am very proud of myself for being strong enough to be able to leave. Anyway all I wanted to say was that you need to fix the situation NOW or if you don't think it can be...and you'll know deep down .....leave. It's not the end of the world and life will get better again. No one deserves to be treated like that and no-one should put up with it. Good luck to you and if you need any support you know where to find me!
    Alannah
  2. by   stpauligirl
    Quote from turtles
    Yeah!
    Been there.... my ex husband started off by saying things like that - I couldn't do bed baths. He would phone me 8 times while I was in class and leave messages. When I called him back he would drill me about where I was and who was in my class, what guys were in my class. But he always told me he loved me at the end of it. It got worse and worse until he told me I wasn't allowed to hang out with my best girlfriend anymore cos she was a bad influence on me!!!! When he wanted to move to the other side of the country and started yelling and throwing things at me, I decided there was no fixing this situation and got me and my daughter out of there. I have been happily seperated for a year now and I am very proud of myself for being strong enough to be able to leave. Anyway all I wanted to say was that you need to fix the situation NOW or if you don't think it can be...and you'll know deep down .....leave. It's not the end of the world and life will get better again. No one deserves to be treated like that and no-one should put up with it. Good luck to you and if you need any support you know where to find me!
    Alannah
    Sounds just like what I've been through....good for you to leave!
    Dont' go back either!
    Good luck with everything, you can get through it.
  3. by   stpauligirl
    Quote from twotrees2
    good post. in myopinion the way the world views marriage ( to easy to get married and justget divorced " no fault - irreconsilable differences" etc - ) is a lot at fault for the way society views things - instead of working on it - its easier to just let go or "rip off thier ...." if they tell you what to do type attitude.
    Thank God we don't live in the stone age anymore and women can choose if they want to continue to be married to an abuser or not.
    I recently needed thyroid surgery....my thyroid tissue was damaged from getting choked and I suffered for years from the havoc that the injury caused.
    Maybe you could call your police department and attend meetings of victims of domestic abuse and other violent crimes and listen to their stories. Most people "don't just get divorced"
    To tell you the truth I would do it again, JUST MUCH SOONER if I had to. I took it for 11 years from a crazy guy and my son was in for it for quite some time, too.
    Last edit by stpauligirl on Nov 8, '06
  4. by   txspadequeenRN
    This is funny...lol


    Quote from mkcrturner
    hehehe- to lighten this up, my DH (dear hubby) does not mind at all. But I do have 'rules' ......

    if it is a man- he has to pay a bill- i am to try to earn a mortgage payment

    if it is another woman... i am to videotape it <rolls eyes>

    But from a serious aspect. It is a learning experience in front of a classroom. I doubt it is going to be sexual in any way, shape, or form.

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