My husband can't deal with my new experiences! - page 2

Hi everyone! You know how it feels when you are so excited about something, you just want to burst until you can tell someone? I have been experiencing so many new things in my clinical rotations,... Read More

  1. by   RNIAM
    We have pre and post conference so that we can get all the stuff out about our experiences. We all need to do it. My hurband is also not interested but then I am not interested in what he does either. I have a few nurse friends I talk to and that works for me.
  2. by   Mito
    Hello All,
    Being male and in nursing I must say that the vast majority of men not in the health care field have no interest or stomach for all of the gory details. My father and brother absolutely quake with fear at the thought of a male having to catheterize another male, sounds silly to us yes, but look at from their perspective.

    Most men like to feel like they are in control of both themselves and the situation. When in hospital they may not have control over either and for the first time may have to rely on others to have their basic needs met. Your husband probably does not like to think about being in hospital and all of the care that comes with it.

    Since you stated he supports you in other ways just build on that and share your stories with people who are interested and can relate to your situation.

    PS. I have seen many the macho man shudder with fear at the site of an IM coming their way, so I try to calm them down before doing any intervention.

    Hope this helps with the "male" perspective

    Mito
  3. by   CountrifiedRN
    Thank you, Mito, for the male point of view. I guess it's just hard for me to imagine anyone not being interested in gory stories! :chuckle I guess I'll have to reserve them for times that I'm with my buds from school, or maybe I can occasionally torment him like Kristi does to her hubby!
  4. by   Dublin37
    Jeeps! Just the mention of my carpal surgery when friends asked exactly what it was, and he was off running, blushing:imbar "are ya done yet?" He wouldn't come back until the coast was clear. He has let me know MANY times, not to tell him about any gross or wet or surgery etc. You get the picture. At first my feelings were hurt, but all of you are making me feel better. And luckily, my two kids, 10 and 7, LOVE to hear all the details that I can bring home. They are often digging through my A & P books looking for icky pic's. (Especially my boy!) Heather :chuckle
    Last edit by Dublin37 on Oct 30, '02

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