It's hard losing classmates...

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I just found out today that a good friend was dismissed from our program for failing sterile technique. I feel awful for this person because I know how hard they worked to get in.

The shock was that this person is a stellar academic student. Has made an A on both our exams so far. I just feel terrible that this one issue ended it.

It's so hard to see classmates leave :( I didn't think it would be so hard. But when someone sits next to you each day, it really hits home when they're not there. So sad!

Specializes in CVICU.
I think you need to be reminded that personal attacks are not allowed on allnurses, and if you cannot post without making personal attacks, then do not post at all.

Thanks.

Okay, just because someone doesn't see things your way doesn't make it a personal attack. :facepalm: I just felt your 'We don't need your pity.' comment was rude.

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Specializes in ortho, hospice volunteer, psych,.

Sometimes what was intended as a look of empathy can be perceived as a look of either pity or sympathy.

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Specializes in Critical Care, ED, Cath lab, CTPAC,Trauma.
As someone who has been that "lost" classmate, I am just letting you know how it feels to be on the other side of the table. It is really difficult to return that next year having to face the "friends" that got to go ahead of you. The last thing a person needs is looks of pity and I got the impression that this was what this thread was about from the tone of your post...pity.
I am going to interject here....I didn't get that at all. I think the OP feels genuinely sad at the loss of friends and that someone had to experience a devastating and embarrassing loss. It's called caring and empathy.

I think your feelings with your experience are clouding what you read just a little bit. ((HUGS))

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Specializes in Critical Care, ED, Cath lab, CTPAC,Trauma.
I think you need to be reminded that personal attacks are not allowed on allnurses, and if you cannot post without making personal attacks, then do not post at all.

Thanks.

a reminder for everyone......
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When I was taking pre-reqs, I found 3 classmates who were like-minded. We each studied well. Our personalities meshed well. We were all "A" students and could be relied upon to do our share of each project. When we had group study sessions, we learned a lot from one another since we each had slightly different understandings of the material.

Now, 1 has moved away and another is home having babies. There are only 2 of us applying to all of the same programs. I'm sure I'll make more friends in NS, but if I lose this friend (or she loses me), we'll both be devastated. Your friends are your support group. Losing them hurts....not because you pity them.....but because your support group just got smaller.

If I were to be left behind, I would be completely embarrassed and very sensitive so I understand Princess Bride's concerns, too. But I don't think that was the intention of this thread.

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Threads like this make me so nervous for the future!

Start: May 2014

Proj. Grad.: Decemeber 2015

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Specializes in Emergency Department.

Remember this: in most Nursing Programs, most of the students are retained and graduate. I was one of those students that failed. I was granted re-entry to the program the very next semester and now I'm due to graduate in a few weeks. There's hope for those that fail once. Unfortunately, I lost a classmate for the second time. It's going to be a while before my classmate will be able to get back into any local RN program. I hope there's room in a VN program for my classmate because this person deserves (and will be a good nurse) to be a nurse. I hope that they let my classmate enter that program as they did another classmate of mine.

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