I NEED Help on Psychology assignment...PLEASE!!!!

  1. Hello all....I am currently doing apsychology study(due the week after Thanksgiving) and I have a marital survey that I have to have filled out....if any of you could do it on here then I could get the info.....it would be greatly helpful to me......
    Please state male or fe,ale though because you can't always tell here.....if you don't feel comfortable posting answers here...PM them or email to RRK61970@aol.com

    If any of you are married and can get you spouse or significant other to do this that would help also.....

    Thanks in advance for the help.......there are two sections....one for males and one for females.........thanks again

    List in order of frequency (1-15) the reasons you feel your marriage has lasted or will last.

    Women

    1) An enduring marriage is important to social stability.
    2) We laugh together.
    3) I want the relationship to succeed.
    4) I like my spouse as a person.
    5) My spouse has grown more interesting.
    6) We agree about our sex life.
    7) Marriage is a long term commitment.
    8) My spouse is my best friend.
    9) I am proud of my spouses' achievements.
    10) Marriage is sacred.
    11) We agree on aims and goals.
    12) We agree on the philosophy of life.
    13) We agree on how and how often to show affection.
    14) We discuss things calmly.
    15) We have a stimulating exchange of ideas.


    Please put your age
    Marital status
    Ever been divorced?








    List in order of frequency (1-15) the reasons you feel your marriage has lasted or will last.
    Men

    1) An enduring marriage is important to social stability.
    2) We laugh together.
    3) I want the relationship to succeed.
    4) I like my spouse as a person.
    5) My spouse has grown more interesting.
    6) We agree about our sex life.
    7) Marriage is a long term commitment.
    8) My spouse is my best friend.
    9) I am proud of my spouses' achievements.
    10) Marriage is sacred.
    11) We agree on aims and goals.
    12) We agree on the philosophy of life.
    13) We agree on how and how often to show affection.
    14) I confide in my spouse.
    15) We share outside hobbies and interests.

    Please put your age

    Marital status

    Ever been divorced?
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  2. 10 Comments

  3. by   Robin61970
    PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE.......I could really use the input guys and gals........thanks in advance(HOPEFULLY)


    Robin
  4. by   laurab2jb2
    O.K., Robin. I'll play. Here goes:

    I am 37 years old, married (18 years), and never divorced (although got close once!)

    My idea of importance to long-term marriages:

    1) I like my spouse as a person (4)
    2) Marriage is a long-term committment (7)
    3) We laugh together (2)
    4) My spouse is my best friend (8)
    5) Marriage is sacred (10)
    6) We agree on aims & goals (11)
    7) We discuss things calmly (usually!) (14)
    8) We have a stimulating exchange of ideas (15)
    9) I am proud of my spouse's achievements (9)
    10) We agree on the philosophy of life (12)
    11) My spouse has grown more interesting (5)
    12) We agree about our sex life (6)
    13) We agree on how & how often to show affection (13)
    14) I want the relationship to succeed (3)
    15) An enduring marriage is important to social stability (1)

    This of course would not be an exhaustive list of why marriages last or not, but I think the #1 thing is that you actually LIKE the person you're married to. That really helps on those days when you're wondering why you married this man who is currently snoring and farting lying next to you! (sounds great, huh! )

    Of course, the benefits outweigh the bad, or nobody would ever stick it out! I've been with my hub since I was 14 years old (give or take a little during our high-school spats), and we almost divorced about 3 years ago, but were able to work things out with alot of time and a really good marriage counselor!

    Good luck with your paper, and COME ON EVERYONE - we all have been there needing some help for our papers.
  5. by   radnurse2001
    I am 33 years old Married 13 years and have 3 children. Never been divorced, separated from my husband once.
    RANKED IN ORDER -
    1.) My spouse is my best friend
    2.) We laugh together
    3.) I like my spouse as a person
    4.) We agree on aims and goals
    5.) We discuss things calmly
    6.) We have a stimulating exchange of ideas
    7.) My spouse has grown more interesting
    8.) We agree on the philosophy of life
    9.) I want the relationship to succeed
    10.) We agree about our sex life
    11.) Marriage is a long term commitment
    12.) I am proud of my spouses achievements
    13.) Marriage is sacred
    14.) We agree on how and how often to show affection
    15.) An enduring marriage is important to social stability


    Robin, I think the one thing that was forgotten here was respect. I could not be married to someone who doesn't respect me or whom I did not respect. Being able to communicate is the key in our marriage. We have gained the ability(from going to marriage counceling for a long long time) to communicate effectively, to leave the judgemental tone out of our voices and to listen to the other person. Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus is an excellent reference to the differences in men and women. In all honesty, a marriage should not work due to those differences. A strong marriage also involves comprimise. being able to have a win-win situation.

    Hope this helps--sorry so long winded, but I am very opinionated.


    Anne
  6. by   Robin61970
    I agree about respect...........the original study on this was done in 1985 on couples who had been married.........I am duplicating the study to see how the opinions have changed since 1985 with the way our society has changed. I didn't change anything about the questions and I appreciate the answers along with the opinions because I may be able to use them in the writing of the paper...........thanks so much for taking the time to answer...........
  7. by   NICU_Nurse
    I am 24 years old, and my husband and I have been married for 18 months; together for almost five years.

    1) I like my spouse as a person.
    2) My spouse is my best friend.
    3) We laugh together.
    4) We have a stimulating exchange of ideas.
    5) I want the relationship to succeed.
    6) Marriage is a long term commitment.
    7) I am proud of my spouses' achievements.
    8) My spouse has grown more interesting.
    9) We agree on how and how often to show affection.
    10) Marriage is sacred.
    11) We agree on aims and goals.
    12) We agree about our sex life.
    13) We agree on the philosophy of life.
    14) We discuss things calmly. (Not! We're both stubborn and hotheaded; that's why this is at the bottom! ;>))
    15) An enduring marriage is important to social stability.
    When he gets on, I'll try to get him to rate this for you also. Good luck with your project!
  8. by   NICU_Nurse
    Whoops! Forgot the opinions! I think that our relationship is successful (and I say relationship rather than marriage because we've been in a long-term, serious, committed relationship for five years; much longer than we've actually been married) because I LIKE him. I like who he is, and who he was, and who he is turning into. I love him, but people frequently love people who are all wrong for them; women who are abused often love their husbands, but liking a person is more important in my opinion. I can love you and not be involved in a relationship with you (i.e., you love a guy, but break up with him anyway because of one reason or another), but if I don't like you, the chance for a relationship doesn't exist in the first place. We've had significant problems, but the secret to our staying together so long and still being so in love with each other and happy is the amount of effort we've put in to solve those problems. They may still exist, but their impact is lessened because we are consistentl trying to eliminate them or fix them. I used to tell my husband that one sign of a real relationship is being able to yell and scream and act ridiculous and not fearing that the other person is going to leave you for it. You feel safe, therefore you feel safe expressing your feelings. Just my thoughts. ;>) Being able to say, whoa, I'm not happy and this is why.... is very important to me in our relationship. I consider it a right.
  9. by   jmspeach
    I'll play too... hope this helps.

    I'm 26, been married 1year, together for 6. Never been divorced.

    1) An enduring marriage is important to social stability. (10)
    2) We laugh together. (6)
    3) I want the relationship to succeed. (15)
    4) I like my spouse as a person. (2)
    5) My spouse has grown more interesting. (12)
    6) We agree about our sex life. (11)
    7) Marriage is a long term commitment. (7)
    8) My spouse is my best friend. (4)
    9) I am proud of my spouses' achievements. (9)
    10) Marriage is sacred. (1)
    11) We agree on aims and goals. (8)
    12) We agree on the philosophy of life. (5)
    13) We agree on how and how often to show affection. (3)
    14) We discuss things calmly. (14)
    15) We have a stimulating exchange of ideas. (13)

    I think the key is that we just keep on keepin' on...and a LOT of understanding that we are all human and have our good and bad days.
  10. by   Robin61970
    Thank you, thank you, thank you...........to those who have helped
    I appreciate it..........
  11. by   nurs4kids
    In order, 1-15:
    I like my spouse as a person.
    My spouse is my best friend.
    We agree on aims and goals.
    We agree on the philosophy of life.
    We discuss things calmly.
    We laugh together.
    We have a stimulating exchange of ideas.
    I am proud of my spouses' achievements.
    My spouse has grown more interesting.
    We agree about our sex life.
    We agree on how and how often to show affection.
    I want the relationship to succeed.
    Marriage is a long term commitment.
    Marriage is sacred.
    An enduring marriage is important to social stability.



    34 Yrs Old, Married, Female, Never divorced
  12. by   Robin61970
    Thanks again to those of you who helped and those who emailed me......my other post is not directed towards you guys and if any of you ever need help on anything don't hesitate to ask.......


    Robin

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