Can't seem to focus and study today..Easter vs school

  1. Hi Everyone,
    Guess I have a case of guilt today. :uhoh21: Every year since I got married (10 yrs), I have cooked all the holiday meals for our family. I really enjoy it. This year, I had to tell them I couldn't do it because I have a really big test tomorrow and need to study. Its not the cooking part that caused me to nix having everyone over, its the cleaning the house, dishes, and getting everyone to leave at a decent hour, then study. I felt I just couldn't do it and do well on my test.

    Well, long story short, my kids got their Easter baskets, we took the family out to eat, came home and had an egg hunt, then I tried to study. Well, it just ain't happening. My mind is everywhere but where it should be.
    Anyone else having this problem? hummm possibly a higher power at work huh?

    Happy Easter, Berta
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  3. by   wilbur1
    Cheer up Berta,

    Don't be so hard on yourself! I am 34, married, and a mother of 3. I know exactly how you feel! I graduate in less than a month and I am so sick of school!! My family has sacrificed a lot for me to go back to school but it will be over soon--and so worth it. Hang in there, it won't be like this forever. What is your test on? When do you graduate? Good luck and take it easy!


  4. by   Berta
    Hi Wilbur1,
    Tomorrow's test is on maternity. We only get 2 test per semester. Thus, I need to do well. I graduate in May 2005. I have enjoyed the whole school experience. I've met some wonderful people along the way.

    My immediate family hasn't been all that supportive about school. They were actually put out that I chose to put school ahead of them for Easter. They did a really good job at making me feel rotten. Hubby and kids didn't mind going out for Easter. I actually enjoyed myself too.

    However, I just can't keep my brain focused on my notes this afternoon. My solution??? Come spend 2 hours on Allnurses.com. Oh well. Maybe I get some studying done once the kids go to bed.

    Happy Easter, Berta
  5. by   wilbur1
    Berta,

    I'm sorry your family isn't very supportive. It has made all of the difference for me. It is difficult going back to school in your 30's. Time will fly by-believe me. You will always have support here and from your peers at school-we know what you are going through!

    I have a test a week from Monday on high-risk pregnancy. I think maternity is easier when you have already given birth! You only have 2 tests a semester? That is way too much pressure-yuck. If you have any questions, I'd be willing to help. Do you have any NCLEX books? I've used them to prepare for tests and they have helped me tremendously!

    Take Care!!
  6. by   Berta
    Wilbur1,
    I do have a NCLEX book I can study from. Right now, I am having enough trouble trying to keep up with the reading and notes from class. I also have those Made incredibly easy books. Those books are awesome. They helped to get me through med/surg. So glad that semester is over with. The maternity semester so far, has been fun.

    I agree with you that school really flies by. I can't beleive that I only have 3 more weeks of classes and this year is over. WOW It went by so quickly.

    What do you have for a textbook for maternity? We are using a book called Maternity-Newborn & Child Nursing (Family Centered Care) We use it again next year for peds. It really isn't all that great for a textbook, its a little too basic. I don't know if thats because I've already had two kids and it all seems like review. I have gotten more out of the lectures & the Made Easy books. What's your opinion?

    What kind of program are you in? I'm in a ADN.
    Berta
    Last edit by Berta on Apr 11, '04 : Reason: Can't type or spell today.
  7. by   hoppermom3
    I did do the big Easter dinner today...but in a messy house. I am also a 30 year old mother of 3. I have only worked part-time since we have been married, so me not having enough time to take care of EVERYTHING is a new thing for my family. Incidentally, the house is STILL messy, because I am studying for an A&P test tomorrow.
  8. by   wilbur1
    Hey Berta,

    We are using Maternal-Child Nursing by Mckinney. It is pretty good. Some of it is pretty detailed and, like most nursing books, repeats itself a lot. I am also in an ADN program. I graduate on the 8th of May and am so excited. My daughter made dinner tonight-with much assistance from mom and dad! She is 9 and loves to make things from scratch-Which I really don't have time for right now, oh well! We started a fire in the oven tonight-it was pretty funny. We made a cake from scratch and I thought the pan would be big enough, but then the baking soda took over--are you getting the picture. She also made blue Jell-o with strawberries-interesting, huh?

    Anyways, I wish you all the best on your test tomorrow. Keep in touch!
  9. by   Love-A-Nurse
    all the best on your test tomorrow.
  10. by   RNsweetie
    Berta,

    Good luck on your test tomorrow as well,

    I can see where you are comming from, I have had a hard time concentrating on studying as well this weekend! I have exams this week and feel so worn out, I can't focus... my kids want me to share their Easter goodies with them and I am in there like a dirty shirt, anything but the books.

    anyway I hope all goes well tomorrow and I hope your family begins to support you in your "time of need".

    best of luck
    Erin
  11. by   momof38160
    Just wanted to say how happy I am to see that there are other "30 somethings" doing this. I'm 38, soon to be 39 and I am so excited about going to school and finally having a wonderful "career". Have been a stay at home mom for 11 years. (I have 3 children, 11, 9, and 3.) My husband is supportive of my decision, the kids think its "cool" but I am having a lot of difficulty with mother-in-law and sister-in-law. I cannot bring up school with them. My sister-in-law told her 13 and 7 year olds that I am going back to school because I don't have an education! They, in turn, told my children that! I am so upset right now, I'm shaking! I have sooooo many college credits behind me, I just never finished to get a degree! (moving with husband, having kids). Oh well, sorry just wanted to vent!
  12. by   wilbur1
    My sister-in-law told her 13 and 7 year olds that I am going back to school because I don't have an education! They, in turn, told my children that! I am so upset right now, I'm shaking! I have sooooo many college credits behind me, I just never finished to get a degree! (moving with husband, having kids). Oh well, sorry just wanted to vent![/QUOTE]




    It sounds like she is jealous. Don't let this get you down. You'll see how "uneducated" she thinks you are after you graduate. Hang in there.

  13. by   Berta
    :hatparty:
    I passed my test!!!! I got a 90. I am happy.

    Thanks to everyone for your support. I also enjoy seeing other 30 something year olds having the same issue that I am with trying to balance school and family. At least we are all in it together.(((((((((HUGs))))))))))))

    I know that I have made the right choice by returning to school.


    Off to hit the books again.

    Berta
  14. by   wilbur1
    Berta,

    CONGRATS!!! I knew you could do it!! When are you done with school? Do you any more tests? I have an interview on Wednesday - I am nervous!!

    Take Care!!

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