attn ALL RN's !! serious help

[dreamerxo]

Hi everyone my name is Andrea 23 y.o and im so glad that I came across this site. Heres my dilemma I was a nursing student but failed out of my program due to my struggle with critical thinking on tests. I worked so hard day and night with nursing as my # 1 priority. tried everything under the sun from practice questions, to study groups, to all nighters you name it all i always fell short. Clinical wise it was okay, it took me a while to grasp things but i realized i had a issue with my nerves it made me anxious for example once my instructor told me to check with the head nurse before i gave a med.. & it slipped me and i gave it without checking in first although the dosage was correct.. The issue is now i cant get back into nursing because my GPA is like a 2.4 & because i repeated courses. Nursing is my dream the nature of the job makes me happy everyone tells me i would be great when im on the unit i feel at home and it hurts me to think i possibly cant be cut out for this. Everything tells me dont give up but when there is no opportunity what do u do ? Should i change my major ? Im feeling like that now .. Am i not smart enough? have you seen anything like this --- Id appreciate the feedback im so lost :'(

[Shelby, BSN, RN]

I can't believe it's so many mean people on this site. ( if your not mean then I'm not talking to you so its no need to respond).

Will you explain what you thought was mean?

I read through all the posts and I thought they offered helpful and constructive advice. Not all good advice will leave people with warm and fuzzy feelings. If it's truthful and helpful then it is good advice, which is what the OP asked for. I also think it is important to never give false reassurance, regardless of how "nice" someone wants to be. We are taught that in nursing school to not do that with patients, and thankfully I rarely see it on here.

[Lordswill]

My opinion. Like telling someone they need to go back to school for English. Totally uncalled for. She could have been typing from her phone. It's the same people all the time! Your words could make or brake a person. IDK, some people think they know everything! Won't respond anymore when I feel a person is being negative.

[DLS_PMHNP, MSN, RN, NP]

IDK, some people think they know everything!

I also did not witness this in any of the posts. They were offering the OP advice, as she asked for. Unfortunately, life is not always about rainbows and puppies.

Best,

Diane

[Lordswill]

That's your opinion Diane. Thanks for sharing

[rubato, ASN, RN]

Sometimes, the best advice is the advice that hurts a little at first. A truly caring person will give you the advice that is going to best help you, not what you want to hear. My true friends will, in fact, tell me if my outfit makes my butt look big.

[Horseshoe, BSN, RN]

I can't believe it's so many mean people on this site. ( if your not mean then I'm not talking to you so its no need to respond).

No, lying to her and giving her false hope would be mean. The OP has received honest but RESPECTFUL advice, which she solicited.

[eyesopen_mouthshut, CNA]

Sometimes the best advice is the advice that hurts a little at first. A truly caring person will give you the advice that is going to best help you, not what you want to hear. My true friends will, in fact, tell me if my outfit makes my butt look big. [/quote']

This should be required reading for everyone on this board who posts that they want advice. I'm guilty of getting upset by posts, but I'm getting a LOT better!

I also agree with GrnTea... I used to think I wanted to be a marine biologist. I started taking pre-reqs for it as a career path, but once it got to org chem, I had to stop and evaluate my options... I failed it twice (first time I've ever admitted it!!!) and that's when I realized, I need to stop. With so much time, effort, and hard work I had put in, I still failed. We can all have dreams, but when we step back to view everything objectively, sometimes we can make our reality better than our dreams when we play to our strengths. Best of luck OP!