Why is it that whenever a pt. goes bad I automatically think what did i do wrong? Why is it that I feel guilty when a pt. has a complication that I clearly had nothing to do with. Why do I keep going over and disecting every little thing I did for and with said pt, developing insane hypothesis that could never have happened?
Today I had an extremely pleasant, a&o 4, perfectly stable pt. admitted for observation following a fall with a arm fx. Pt. was fine ALL DAY. Vitals stable,a little brady (mid to high 50's) but taking several cardiac meds and a hx of MI. Only med received from me was Pepcid. Handed off pt. at 1530 and on my way out stopped to chat for a minute with pt. about what they were going to order for lunch. Again perfectly stable pt.
Apparently within minutes of my leaving the unit this pt. crashed. (I know this because a coworker called to inform me) So here I am blaming myself, wondering what I did wrong, thinking I am going to walk in tomorrow and be fired immeditely, lashed with a wet noodle, license revoked and perhaps a small blurb written up about me into the latest editions of all the nursing textbooks as an example of poor nursing. I envision myself walking the hall of my unit as my coworkers slowly turn their backs to me as I pass (I think I saw that in a movie once).
Is it because I am a mother and used to the fact that everything is my fault? Is it because I am mentally ill? I seriously concocted the following scenario in my head: The vial of pepcid could have been something else......nope I always check my vial. Maybe I grabbed a vial of something else mistakenly....the only other iv push med I gave today was dilaudid and I ALWAYS check my vials when I draw up meds.....Maybe we have a rogue pharmacist secretly switching pepcid vials with some other insidious conconction or perhaps someone at the pharmaceutical company accidentally substituted a batch of Pepcid with some other drug......Do you get where I am going here?
Why can't I just let it go????????
While this is a tad bit exaggerated, I really am having a hard time letting go of my pts. I automatically think it is my fault when things go wrong even if I had that pt. a week ago, (maybe I did something, what did I miss, etc.). It doesn't help that certain coworkers can be a tad bit accusatory and love to sit around disecting the nursing care of others (and apparently have time during crisis situations to call the offgoing RN to ask them for information easily accessible in the pt. chart).
Can anyone share some coping skills? Mine aren't working!