my grandmother was diagnosed with [color=#0000cc]amyloidosis
of her spine in 2007
in 2008 the pea sized tumor grew to the size of a
grapefruit then a foot ball
they operated on her prone side (face down )
the doctor found the mass spread to her breast and was traveling up her brain
she survived the surgery
but was paralyzed from the hips down
and has deteratied since feb 2008
she is now on tube feed
she cant take in food or water she gets nauseated
they have her on 4 of dilladid every 4 hours
as needed due to her screaming in intense pain
my question is we realize now that she no longer has control of bowl, urine and other functions
and cant eat , and now the tube feed is making her sick and residual of 200 cc is coming out of the tube
we are preparing her for hospice
and my dad refuses to reduce her tube feed
thinking it will kill her
is this correct
or i figured since the body is shutting down
and the brain is in confusion and her output is very little it would be less pain and suffering on her
she gets bloated and gassy and cries out in pain
from it
her body wont absorb it anymore
but we dont know how to let her go
peacfully and humanly
she sleeps 21 hours of the day
and her dementia and pain is intesnse
please can you offer advice
for us
shes 90 years old
i dont want to see her suffer anymore
leah
her granddaughter
:redbeathe