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when to remove the tube feed /or not - page 2

my grandmother was diagnosed with amyloidosis of her spine in 2007 in 2008 the pea sized tumor grew to the size of a grapefruit then a foot ball they operated on her prone side (face down )... Read More

  1. Visit  Debilpn23 profile page
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    Hi Leah
    I just want to let you know my thoughts and prayers are with you. I have tears in my eyes as I read your posts. You are a wonderful kind granddaughter, and will make a wonderful nurse. I hope your dad listens to what hospice recommends, he needs to do waht is best foe your grandmother. Please keep us posted
    Love debi
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    would your dad keep a dog alive like this? i doubt it. he has to love his mom enough to let her go. technology can keep her "alive" for quite a while. would he appreciate being kept alive like this? what goes around, comes around. perhaps being blunt like this will give him something to think about for in his hour of need, you will be making the decisions...is this the lesson he wants to teach you? the example he wants you to follow when things are on the other foot?
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  3. Visit  NanaOf8 profile page
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    Hi Leah,
    Continue to look to the Lord for your peace and strength. Your father cannot comprehend right now due to his own pain and denial. For now, let go and wait for hospice team to assist. Very soon, your father is going to need you more than you know. He has tons of vultures and critics at this back right now. Just be there for him, show him you are on his side, hug him and let him know how much you love him.

    What a loving granddaughter you are. You love her deeply, hear her cries for Jesus and know her wishes. I WILL pray for peace and strength for you and your family. For your grandmother, I pray for her peace and will celebrate the day the Lord calls her home. It's all in His time, not ours.

    God bless.
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    Quote from debi23
    Hi Leah
    I just want to let you know my thoughts and prayers are with you. I have tears in my eyes as I read your posts. You are a wonderful kind granddaughter, and will make a wonderful nurse. I hope your dad listens to what hospice recommends, he needs to do waht is best foe your grandmother. Please keep us posted
    Love debi

    God bless you and thanks for the support
    leah:heartbeat
  5. Visit  kmoonshine profile page
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    As the body begins to die, kidney function decreases, GI motility decreases, and GI absorption decreases. In essence, feeding her is making her situation worse. It's also thought that IVF exacerbates the "death rattle" when patients are dying because the patient is fluid overloaded. You can bring her comfort by stopping the feedings and limiting IVF as appropriate.

    I'm sorry, but your grandmother is dying. You can help to give her a good death but you have a very difficult job ahead of you - which is helping your father realize that death is just around the corner. She needs permission to pass and she may be having nightmares because of the guilt she bears because she is dying and your father doesn't want to let her go. She may feel guilty about leaving him behind.

    Please let your father know that stopping the feedings is not killing her. She is dying because of the cancer. Insist on him facing what is on the horizon and help him realize that he needs to help her pass with the least discomfort as possible. Perhaps her pain control needs to be more aggressive also - dilaudid 4mg every 4 hrs doesn't seem like a lot for someone dying of cancer. Is a PCA pump with oral pain lozenges for breakthrough pain an option? If she appeared more comfortable, would your father feel more comfortable about withholding feedings?

    Again, help your father give your grandmother a good death. A death free of guilt, free of pain, and surrounded by loved ones...

    Best wishes to you.
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