What an Aid Hates - page 2

As an aid on a busy step-down floor, I am appalled at the lack of manners of many nurses and doctors. I hate the way they walk by you--in your way--and it's their fault, and you say "excuse me," and... Read More

  1. by   AcosmicRN
    Quote from rnkittykat
    this is exactly the attitude that is needed. i'm a student rn and work as a tech on a busy community hospital med/surg floor. i've been talked about in my presence like i wasn't even there and had spent my whole life sweeping floors for a living. one nurse had the audacity to report to the charge, in my presence, how she had to keep after "them" (the techs) all the time. one of the pcts failed to chart vs on several patients and i got the brunt of her anger even after i told her they weren't my patients. she continued to rant trying to lump me into a group that just didn't apply. do you think the charge defended me??? no way. i'm always offering assistance to this nurse, and to all of them in fact. i know that the rn is ultimately responsible for the actions of the nursing team, but that's no excuse for rudeness. those of us on the lower end of the totem pole have the lion's share of patient care. the work is hard, the pay is non-existent. a little appreciation please.
    but here's the thing. one day, you're going to be the nurse and what are you going to do differently? some aids really are immorally lazy. some really are beastly in the care they give pts. what are you going to do so that you will have a clear conscience? how are you going to keep from eventually looking down on the aids? nursing student aids are not the same kind of aids as professional aids. it's easy to appreciate a nursing student aid, i'm talking about old gold-tooth. how are you going to be different? please tell me, because i need to learn.

    acosmic
  2. by   Big Bab's
    In my neck of the woods, we say that RN's that act like that to aids have "RN-itis", I don't know what the cure for that is but maybe the "pillow treatment"? :hatparty: :chuckle
  3. by   Dr. Gonzo
    So true about the crappy attitude of the RN's and MD's i hate around 90% of the staff at my hospital i dont make eye contact or talk to the 90% when they tell me to do something i dont even acknowledge them i just give them a blank stare they wish they could fire me but im a volunteer.:chuckle
  4. by   AcosmicRN
    Quote from ktwlpn
    The behavior you note is not restricted to the healthcare field-haven't you been to a busy mall lately? Or walked down a crowded street or even through a busy grocery store? People in the health care field have a LOT on their minds (as you shall soon find out) and when super stressed it is easy for a certain type of person to be brusque,business-like or even rude-it all depends on your perception.Don't give anyone that kind of power over you...Remember-some people treat EVERYONE like crap-it is not really about you personally....Just remember that you don't want to be that kind of person and act accordingly---people will notice (it's karma,baby)
    You're so very right. It is indeed everywhere. Jesus said do not resist an evil person. And while I think that is one of his hardest sayings, I have to agree that resisting a rude person, or being rude in kind is not the answer. Waiting for my chance to be on top so I can be rude and "get even" only means that rudness has won. It will have changed me into itself.

    Acosmic
  5. by   wonderbee
    Quote from AcosmicRN
    The only problem is, the only monkey wrench in the whole thing is that today, by far, I was treated much more rudely by fellow aids than I was by RNs or MDs.

    Acosmic
    I've had days like that too. Maybe it's the nature of the beast of our system of health care that stretches our good will so far that it's as thin as a rotting rubber band. Looking at that 12 hour shift looming ahead knowing that there are going to be 15 acute care patients with labs to draw and EKG's on top of the usual patient care doesn't make for happy thoughts.

    I'm learning to stay out of the line of fire by not getting involved in the stuff that goes on at the nurses station and to reorient when I feel wronged by focusing on one or two special patients that pull my heart strings. For me prayer helps a lot too.
  6. by   AcosmicRN
    Quote from Dr. Gonzo
    So true about the crappy attitude of the RN's and MD's i hate around 90% of the staff at my hospital i dont make eye contact or talk to the 90% when they tell me to do something i dont even acknowledge them i just give them a blank stare they wish they could fire me but im a volunteer.:chuckle
    I think what I am talking about is humility. The ability to be humble to all people. But the only way to be truly humble is to be more powerful than the people you are being humble to. It's the only way to take their abuse and survive mentally. If I could be humble to the nasty aid today (which I was not) then when I am humble to a doctor, it's the same thing. Without the power, it's not being humble, it's being dominated. There has to be a way to break out. There has to be a way to be more powerful, so that true humility can be practiced.

    If I was willing to kill myself, and carried a cyanide pill at all times and truly didn't care if I took it or didn't take it, but simply stuck around to see what was going to happen next in my life, if I could be that detached, then I'd be like a volunteer. Then I'd be truly powerful. Then I could be truly humble. To be humble means one comes down from a position of right and power. Where do I get the power from?

    Acosmic
  7. by   FROGGYLEGS
    Quote from AcosmicRN
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    I moved out of his way, but for a moment it was as if he was intimidated by me. Like I was blocking his way and sneering, "Where you goin boy."

    This probably isn't meant to be funny, but it created a hilarious mental image for me.

    On a more serious note; rudeness can be found among any profession. I do my best to not be rude or short with any staff or anybody for that matter. Generally, people respond pretty well to that. Others are just rude by nature and are probably rude to everyone in general. Of course the world has plenty of special people who don't have the courage to be rude to their "equals" or "superiors" so they'll take it out on anyone that is unfortunate enough to be lower on the chain than they are.
  8. by   CarolineRn
    Quote from AcosmicRN
    As an aid on a busy step-down floor, I am appalled at the lack of manners of many nurses and doctors. I hate the way they walk by you--in your way--and it's their fault, and you say "excuse me," and they just walk by without commenting, as if they have a divine right to exist and aids and below are just dirt that need not even be acknowledged or treated like humans with dignity.

    MDs are the worst for this, but I give them a pass because I figure they're so spiritually handicapped that they can't help being that way. I don't expect much from them. I think of them as I would any psych patient. But nurses? I expect more from nurses. They should be the experts at compassion. They should be spiritually evolved enough to at least have manners.

    I'm sick of being made to feel like a piece of dirt at work, because I am not. Aids, houskeepers and cooks are super, super important to patients! They are not dirt. I'll be an RN any day now (when I get my NCLEX results), so I have to overcome this now. I can't just solve this problem by escaping up into the status of an RN (see what I mean! I said escape "up." I freakin programmed!). I have to get some new software downloaded into my mind and spirit before my results come. Thank God the Post Office isn't delivering today (because I was expecting my results today). If I get my results before figuring this out, I won't think about it. I won't solve it. The problem will disappear.

    HELP!!

    Acosmic

    Hey Acosmic. Guess what? Even new RN's are treated this way. Not by many, but by some. Blow it off as best you can, and if you get the opportunity, show them the same lack of courtesy. They'll never get off their high horse, but who honestly cares what someone so morally inferior thinks?
  9. by   ScarlettRN
    Quote from AcosmicRN
    Some aids really are immorally lazy. Some really are beastly in the care they give pts. Nursing student aids are not the same kind of aids as professional aids. It's easy to appreciate a nursing student aid, I'm talking about old gold-tooth.
    Acosmic
    I am still laughing about old gold tooth! So very many faces flashed before my eyes when I read that!
  10. by   AcosmicRN
    Quote from RNKittyKat
    I've had days like that too. Maybe it's the nature of the beast of our system of health care that stretches our good will so far that it's as thin as a rotting rubber band. Looking at that 12 hour shift looming ahead knowing that there are going to be 15 acute care patients with labs to draw and EKG's on top of the usual patient care doesn't make for happy thoughts.

    I'm learning to stay out of the line of fire by not getting involved in the stuff that goes on at the nurses station and to reorient when I feel wronged by focusing on one or two special patients that pull my heart strings. For me prayer helps a lot too.
    "Not getting involved at the stuff at the nurses station." That is a fact. That's exactly where all this talk occurs, too. I think I will stay out of the line of fire, too. I'll just hang around my patients rooms as much as I can. I don't want to be the kind of nurse that would ignore an aid--since I hate it so much when they do it to me--but staying out of the line of fire doesn't mean I'm ignoring anyone does it? I think that's just good advice. Thanks.

    Acosmic
  11. by   AcosmicRN
    Quote from FROGGYLEGS
    Others are just rude by nature and are probably rude to everyone in general. Of course the world has plenty of special people who don't have the courage to be rude to their "equals" or "superiors" so they'll take it out on anyone that is unfortunate enough to be lower on the chain than they are.
    Excellent words. The aid who had a go at me, yesterday, only did so because she precieved me as being "newer" than her. I think she's been an aid for 20+ years. When it comes to the nurses, she just walks by and says nothing to them. She just keeps her head down.

    Acosmic
  12. by   AcosmicRN
    Quote from CarolineRn
    Hey Acosmic. Guess what? Even new RN's are treated this way. Not by many, but by some. Blow it off as best you can, and if you get the opportunity, show them the same lack of courtesy. They'll never get off their high horse, but who honestly cares what someone so morally inferior thinks?
    But here's the thing, Caroline: I don't want to be like that. I don't want to show them the same lack of courtesy they show me. Because while it stings to get treated that way, and while part of me wants to retaliate in kind, another part doesn't want me to become them. If I am kind to them, even though they are rude to me, doesn't that make me bigger than them? Or does it only make me weak?

    Acosmic
  13. by   AcosmicRN
    Quote from ScarlettRN
    I am still laughing about old gold tooth! So very many faces flashed before my eyes when I read that!
    I'm waiting for someone to acuse me of stereotyping. But I'm not: she really is old and she really has a gold tooth. It's just a fact. Some things in life are just too aprapos.

    Acosmic

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