Want to be a stay at home mom - page 2

by xandarosa 2,460 Views | 12 Comments

For the last 6 years, I've basically been a stay at home mom except for school. I wasn't the best home maker. We lived with my parents which made it hard. Now that we're living on our own, I found I miss the role of a house wife.... Read More


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    Hmm - complex issue.

    I remember reading just recently - changes to Medicaid are eliminating payment to family members for in home services. Could be wrong & it may just concern the 'assist' type services but I think it also covers licensed services also.

    Our (TX) BON has some very specific ethical guidelines that essentially prohibit us from providing services to loved ones for reimbursement. TX Physicians are held to pretty much the same standards. I realize that the OP's situation is one that seems be one in which common sense would dictate that no one could care for her child as well as she could.... so why shouldn't she profit from it. But it does violate ethical standards on several levels. And certainly incites outrage from those of us who would 'love to stay home and get paid to provide care' to our loved ones also. It would also seem that this type of arrangement would also be vulnerable to abuse . . . NOT saying it would happen, but it would lack the usual checks-and-balances that prevent it.

    I have a great deal of empathy for the OPs situation, having served as the (unpaid) primary carer for three family members afflicted with terminal illness.
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    Gosh you guys- stop attacking her. She asked a question. Don't judge her situation. No I don't hv special needs children, yes I work. I had twin premmies and am grateful they are "normal ".
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    I too have heard of this......I though it varied policy to policy and state to state. I do however thing it is reimbursed to the family at a lower rate than that to an outside agency. I too heard about medicare changing this provision.

    OP I suggest you speak to a support group near you. Check with your state board...for there is sometine language that will not allow you to "care" for a loved on long term. It would be nice to care for your disabled child and recisve some "payment"/assistance for this....both sides win...you are home and the insurance CO saves money...a win win. However....sometime maintaing your outside interests and job is a way to save your sanity....caring 24/7 for an ill child can be exhausting.....emotionally and physically...are you sure this would be the BEST move for all involved. It sounds great in theory....but in reality, long term...is it?

    We need to be respectful of each others thoughts an opinions....here at allnurses we promote the idea of lively debate. This means you are free to disagree with anyone on any type of subject matter as long as your criticism is constructive and polite......and refrains from name-calling. This is divisive, rude, and derails the thread.

    Our first priority is to the members that have come here because of the flame-free atmosphere we provide. There is a zero-tolerance policy here against personal attacks. We will not tolerate anyone insulting other's opinion nor name calling.

    Our call is to be supportive, not divisive.

    We need to be respectful ....thread closed per OP request
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