To my preceptor, future students beware (rant) - page 4

Dear Preceptor, This past spring 2010 semester, I was assigned to you for a whole semester to learn the ins and outs of being a nurse independent from my classmates. It was just you and I. I was... Read More

  1. by   Karen20
    Wow, thanks for that! Ugly situation but all too common. I am dreading my fourth year coming up and I am more "mature" (40).
    Apparently there are some nurses that can't wait to destroy their students.

    To all of us--we must not be like them--they will retire as unhappy bitter twisted old bags, we will not.
  2. by   tinkatina
    Ya know, same thing happened to me, Almost identical. It is amazing to me how some nurses get lazy and then play God with nursing students and their grades. I lost my honor status in nursing school thanks to my first encounter with one of these nurses, thank goodness I didn't loose my scholarship. I plan to be the best nurse possible so I can help other students in the future, keeping them from the few bad apples that are out there.
  3. by   Rene829
    i totally understand where your coming from as i am now a new grad nurse ...
    Last edit by Rene829 on Aug 2, '10 : Reason: I would like to delete this post please, I re-wrote it and made some changes. I am having trouble thank you/.
  4. by   Rene829
    yep, i had a similar experience. during my 12 hr shift, my preceptor would nap for 2 hrs and expected me to do too much. i did learn quick on the med/surg unit (mostly on my own thru observing) but when a patient was in severe pain, diaphoretic and in tears where i do not have access to the pixus machine to retrieve a tyenol 3 then it became a problem. i would need my nurse to help such patients and her response would either be "i'm on break, leave me alone" or "i have to finish documenting, patient can wait" joke. the computer and her selfish needs always came first. i did learn alot but i couldn't do much in such situations and i wish she was there more often. she's one of many burned out rn's that chose to work 7 days a week, full time at 2 seperate locations. she brags about how much she is making and how she wants to build up her pension- totally in it for the $$$$$. my advice is don't be afraid to ask questions even if your told "stop asking questions" (like i was), it's a learning experience and you have the right to know as a future nurse ..lots of luck. (it does feel good to vent)
  5. by   nurseynursej
    I had some pretty intense preceptors during my nursing school career as well. First semester (brand new kid off the street with no clinical experience yet) my assigned nurse showed me where the med folders were stored, threw the bag of meds for each patient at me and said it was her break time...there I was a brand new scared to death nursing student passing meds without a licensed prof in sight. Then came OB rotation, I had built up my question asking confidence and was asking my assigned RN (whom was extremely busy explaining to everyone on the floor about her upcoming graduation from NP school) a question about newborn shots. Granted if I had spent the last YEAR studying newborn care, instead of the last three weeks I wouldn't have questions but I did. Being a cautious student I verified where the best place to administer the shot was on the newborn ( I mean I didn't want to assume I was right and then do it wrong!). She proceeded to get this God-awful look on her face, told me the thigh and then (and I quote) "If I had asked that question in Nursing school I would have been taken out back and shot" .... Wow sue me for being overly cautious as I am under your licensure and have never administered a shot to an newborn infant in my life! Throughout nursing school there were the good and the bad, the mean and the EXTREMELY helpful. I thank the Lord for the awesome ones that I did encounter for they ecouraged me to believe in myself and trust my judgement. And I also thank the bad/degrating ones for they forever imprinted in my mind how I will treat future students and how I don't have to act at work even if I am having a horrendous day/week/month. Ah MEMORIES
  6. by   thuber1
    Hey! Most all the nurses I had for clinicals would fit your description of your preceptor!! AND, my first nursing job I had several preceptors, not just one, and all but ONE was like that. It was so bad, I lasted 2 months and had to leave due to the constant turmoil. The experience has taken my excitement away, but not my determination.
    People like that really ought not to be the chosen ones to orient newcomers.
  7. by   RoyalNurse2010
    I just got done with my preceptorship and in the beginning even with the first phone call my preceptor acted like she didnt want to be bother but she turned out to be an excellent nurse and taught me a lot of skills. She would even sit down with me and help me chose topics for my research paper and give me pharmacology questions to refresh my dosage calculations skills, even though all of the meds was already prepared by pharmacy. I am sorry about what you experience as a student and I am glad that you didnt give up!
  8. by   EricJRN
    I'm struck by the fact that your instructor tried to handle the preceptor issue via messages. I'm assuming those were phone or email messages, or maybe handwritten notes, but that just doesn't seem adequate. If I were the underperforming preceptor, I'd want to be told as much in a face-to-face conversation.
  9. by   thuber1
    So....I'm sitting here reading all these stories of early experiences, and how we all can relate and empathize. I am thinking to myself, that all these nurses sound so nice and understanding, and PROFESSIONAL. So WHERE ARE THEY? LOL. I mean, what states? I am in small town Arkansas and I haven't run across you yet, hahahaha. I want to go to where the good people are! Plan on applying in Little Rock very soon.....
  10. by   jizzo
    There are always two points of view. As a staff and charge nurse for many many years, I have seen students who should have been terminated before the end of their first semester...students who had no prayer of ever passing boards or functioning in the role of "professional nurse." I have seen colleges who tolerate poor grooming, immature behavior and inappropriate social skills in nursing students. It is frustrating to nurses to see this happen and sometimes we don't handle the situations like we could. Maybe we should be brave enough to sit "our" students down and have a heart to heart with them. Maybe some nursing students would be happier and better suited working in a lab, a nursing home as an aide or in the hospital kitchen. Just because you think you would like to be a nurse doesn't mean you should be!
  11. by   Lylesmom
    I understand your frustration. At the same time that is nursing....having to depend on yourself because no one is around to help. Everyone can say it shouldn't be that way, and to a certain extent, yes...she should have been there to help you. At the same time, It is your preceptorship (experiencing what nursing really is like). You got a crash course in it.
  12. by   jsapphire
    too sad... but true...hopefully we never become like that
  13. by   lesliel
    congrats on surviving that!