The Type of Nurse I Don't Want to Become

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After completing numerous clinicals and working as an EKG tech, I have observed and often dealt with nurses that are a prime example of what I don't want to be when I graduate. I also concede that I am a mere senior nursing student with no real-world experience.

1.) Night shift nurse who sits on facebook: Since when did it become acceptable to go on a computer and use social networking sites whenever you don't have work to do. In the time that you have sat on facebook you could have filled charts, done further research on your patients' needs, read nursing journals, assisted another nurse or CNA, or just do something that might help the morning shift. Instead, you sit on facebook trying to see if anyone you haven't seen in a few years got fat.

2.) The "thats not my job nurse": This kills me because as a tech I constantly hear this. "Mrs. Smith needs to go to the bathroom can you help her so I can do the EKG?" The reply from the nurse, "Ask the CNA...thats not my job." The nurse should really take a step back and re-evaluate your career choice because by not helping me you are not helping the patient.

3.) The nurse who openly criticizes patients or gossips with other nurses at the station: Guess what, people hear what your saying. You are making a fool of yourself and instead of complaining how so and so didn't bathe this patient during their shift, why don't you do it yourself? Be a professional, do your job to the best of your ability.

4.) The nurse who uses personal problems as an excuse to not care: I'm partial to this because I'm young but I don't care that you have kids, I don't care that your child has the snuffles and you were up all night. If you are unable to successfully complete the tasks of your job DO NOT COME INTO WORK. I have no sympathy for you. If I was out late partying and had a hangover and used it as an excuse would you care? An excuse is an excuse, either do your job right or call out, you are only hurting the patient.

5.) The nurse wearing winnie the pooh scrubs in an adult acute care setting: Your an adult. Dress like a professional, talk like a professional, and people will treat you like one.

6.) Nurses who always apologize to doctors when they call them: It is a doctor's job to take your call, listen to what you say, make decions based on the information you give them. Get some backbone, speak intelligently, and stick to the facts. If you show them you are serious, they will take you seriously and not blow you off as some stupid nurse who bothers them at home.

ok, I got up to page six, but you're all making me mad and making yourselves mad and making each other mad and I think we might all need a nice facepalm and a little break from this thread!

Really, if you're having a quick look at allnurses after you've finished your charting and while you're waiting for a doctor to return your page (so you can apologise for bothering them) surely you'd prefer to read something that lightens your mood more than a long argument about who offended who and who misunderstood what.

Right, I'm going to go read funny stories about stuff patientsh ave taught people not to do, because I want to be the kind of nurse who laughs.

sigh. I couldn't leave, I went straight back and read the rest of the posts. some good ponta have been made all round, and thankfully things got a bit more civil and less reactionary. funnily enough, I agreed with a lot of things that people with very differing opinions had to say.

I'd like to thank the OP for one thing in particular - I read your initial post and thought 'yeah, I get that' but then after reading the criticisms I started to get sidetracked by 'he's making these judgements of the nurses whole day from a snapshot'. Thankyou for coming back with the point that you're not the only person who judges the nurse on a quick snapshot, and we nurses do need to be aware of that. sometimes (as in the example of 'I just sat down to do my charting and someone passed by and commented on how I get to sit on my ass all day) it's unfounded and the person doing the judging is just an idiot, but it was a great reminder to think how we look to outsiders and take care not to give them more ammunition.

Thankyou for posting, and thankyou for sticking with it, and even though I sort of wanted to smack you in the back of the heads, thankyou all for arguing!

Specializes in A and E, Medicine, Surgery.

Going way back to the original post I don't think there is much fundamentally that most people would disagree with and the OP has gone to legnths to explain and expand her standpoint but the sticking point for me is that you never really know what being a nurse is like until you are one.

Before I was a parent I said and truly believed that my children would never be stuck in front of a DVD, I would always explain my reasoning rather ever say "because I said so" and nothing would pass their lips unless I had homegrown and baked it........ unsurprisingly none of the above lasted. I quickly discovered I was human.

Nurses get attacked from so many times and if we as a group come across as defensive then that it because we often feel attacked. Its not about heirachy or being better than any other group its because if we don't defend ourself then trust me know one else will!!

Some of the point are justified, some arguable and some clearly open for debate - and by goodness has that it generated some of that!!

Specializes in ICU, ED,.

Whether or not you meant to do it you have come across as rather condescending and arrogant. Some of your points may be valid but your delivery won't make you popular with coworkers in the future if you speak the way you write. Personally, if it's in the middle of the night and I have to call any one, yeah even a doc, I'll apologize for having to wake them up. I think it's just good manners. No one who knows me thinks I'm a weanie. Good luck with your career.

Specializes in LTC,Hospice/palliative care,acute care.
Whether or not you meant to do it you have come across as rather condescending and arrogant. Some of your points may be valid but your delivery won't make you popular with coworkers in the future if you speak the way you write. Personally, if it's in the middle of the night and I have to call any one, yeah even a doc, I'll apologize for having to wake them up. I think it's just good manners. No one who knows me thinks I'm a weanie. Good luck with your career.
Makes you wonder why one would want to become a nurse at all...
Specializes in interested in NICU!!.

the type of nurse i don't want to become:

i don't want to be mean, and i would like to get along with if not all, most of my co-workers.

I must say I agree about the scrubs. It's been years since I wore them but even then most of the prints available were juvenile. I refused to be a middle-aged nurse wearing cartoon scrubs in an ED so I got to work and sewed my own tops--in nice florals and tasteful prints.

I'd just like to say that I have never killed anyone. I have known many people that have had loved ones die and whenever I hear about it, in sympathy to their situation I say, "I'm sorry." I now feel like an idiot because I had no idea that "sorry" always meant I was taking blame for the situation. Thankfully, the police haven't come knocking on my door yet but perhaps in the future I should add a disclaimer with my sympathy notes...

Specializes in Dialysis,M/S,Home Care,LTC, Admin,Rehab.

With a bit of horror, I have to say that the responses to this thread validate that nurses do eat their young, proved by the exhibiting of the ole "I'll show you a thing or two" attitude..."just wait until you are as jaded as I am", and "who do you think you are, having opinions on MY territory".

This is exactly what I referred to in my article. How would any of you treat Bloop if you were precepting her, only to turn around and feel violated for being accused of doing what you actually do? Come on.

Nurses don't have to be miserable. Nurses choose to be miserable. Seek help, identify issues from your past which created your desire to care for others and in the mean time, ponder if you would want you to care for you.

Bloop..long may you shine. Be who you are.

Specializes in Rodeo Nursing (Neuro).

I dunno. I haven't seen anything in this thread that has caused me to picture the OP sitting in a corner, sobbing. Some of the responses, perhaps including mine, have been defensive. The OP has emphasized, repeatedly, that he hasn't intended to attack any of us, but I've re-read the first post several times and it still strikes me as a bit judgemental and lacking perspective.

I don't mean to eat my young, and I don't think most other respondents do either. Frankly, when I was in the OP's shoes, I thought a lot of the same things. Now I know I wasn't 100% wrong, but I was probably 80% wrong. So let's not feel too sorry for the OP. He seems like a big boy, and if he's going to put his opinions out there, he's going to get replies.

Specializes in Peds/outpatient FP,derm,allergy/private duty.

Agree, Mike; that Bloop likely has the stuff to take it. His post is pretty unvarnished. And yet it's polite and tame compared to other "problems nurses have" lists.

Apropos of nothing in particular, I despise the phrase "nurses eat their young". It just grosses me out and reminds me of Insect shows on TV. :barf01: I know older nurses can be horrible to younger ones, I just wish there was a less nauseating way of making the point.

Doc Lori- I know what you are saying about the pile-on effect that happens sometimes. Like 20 people will pound away at the same point as if they haven't read the first 19 saying exactly the same thing. It makes me cringe, but often it's actually nursing students and newer nurses who are the most judgemental!

Specializes in Dialysis,M/S,Home Care,LTC, Admin,Rehab.

Nurse Mike, please don't confuse my support with pity. Also, from where do you think that defensiveness stems? You seem to really understand that, yet for others, it seems as though the shoe that Bloop "put out there" is quite fitting to folks, just sayin'. :twocents:

Until there is a shift in all of this toxicity and everyone's ego is checked at the door, nursing will continue to be a high burnout profession.

With all of the changes coming with Healthcare Reform, nurses will not only be in the position to be the backbone of healthcare delivery in our country, nurses will be the healthcare delivery in our country.

Shame on Bloop for having the audacity to identify right from wrong. Sure, with experience you shift perspective, yet without having a perspective to begin with, without the development of a core self truth, you just end up picking up the energies and traits around you.

To be a backbone, you need a backbone.:up:

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