Take this job and shove it, I ain't working here no more! - page 7

by Blue Roses

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That was me three weeks ago. Since then, I have sought help in counseling, have started medication through my doctor, applied for several jobs, and have gotten a few job offers. TODAY, I accepted a job offer at an inpatient... Read More


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    You did the right thing.
    netglow likes this.
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    I also was in a work environment that was not conducive to good health. I worked in a small, rural, desert community as a home health nurse. I started at the clinic as the nursing supervisor, but was slowly pushed out by the clinic manager. I thought working with the other home health nurse would be a huge difference. Boy, was I wrong!! The last straw was when she got mad at me for working 25 straight days while she was away when her mother passed away. She told me that I was exhausted because I basically did too much. Actually, what I did was everything she didn't do. This person is at least 4 years behind in billing alone. And let's not go into her charting, or lack there of. She never got to work before noon and patients were upset when she would show up at 9 pm to see them. While she was sternly talking to me (I am being very nice), I got up and walked out. I went up the chain of command, knowing full well that nothing would be done as everyone thinks this person walks on water. She treated me with kids gloves for 3 weeks, probably in fear that I would quit and she would have to actually work. Well, after those 3 weeks, I left on a 6 week honeymoon and as someone said....they haven't seen me since. The second day of our trip, my husband looked at me and said...."You are not going back to work". I sent my letter of resignation that night via email (had it ready for quite a while, was ready to quit anytime). I heard through the grapevine that she "never saw it coming". Really? Anyway, it is now 8 months later, we are still traveling (we have a RV) and I seem to finally be rid of the knot in the stomach feeling, even if I SEE a car that looks like hers. So, good for you, for taking care of yourself first. You are no good to your patients if you are not good to yourself. I wish you nothing but the best in your new job. Blessings to you.
    Fiona59 likes this.
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    In response to talk of burning bridges, I'd say that there wasn't really a bridge to begin with, based on the OP, and thus no reason to worry about burning said bridge. How can you get good references when you're already the least favorite, even if you give the two weeks notice? Is a two week notice going to magically erase all of the negative feelings the manager already had? Are you going to want to work for manager number 2 if manager 2 is good buddies with toxic manager 1? The kind of manager I want to work for would understand the importance of taking care of self first.
    There are 3million or so nurses in the US, plenty of room to escape the worst of toxic circles.

    As for the letters to the organization - is there a risk management office there? A risk management office might be more likely than the CEO to look into situations you observed.
    netglow, morte, and SleeepyRN like this.
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    Quote from Blue Roses
    Everyone, I want to clarify that if I write these letters to the nursing management office and to the CEO of the hospital they will be totally anonymous and without any identifying factors related to the specific unit I worked on, my manager, or my coworkers. I don't want to get in trouble or burn any bridges, and I definately don't want to get any of my former co-workers in trouble. My main goal was to make someone aware that there ARE situations like this that are going on in the hospital, and maybe someone will do something about it so that no one else there will fall through the cracks like I did. I'm not the only one who was having issues, there were dozens of other RNs on the unit with me who were either leaving or actively looking to leave because things were so bad there.Is it still a bad idea? I'm open to suggestions.
    We have to start somewhere to begin to see a change right? I once wrote a letter to a previous supervisor of mine (before nursing) telling her how she treated me. You know what happened? She came to me in tears, feeling guilty (very Christian woman) and said I was absolutely right and apologized profusely. That ended that behavior.
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