Survey: Would you encourage your child to become a nurse? - page 3

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  1. by   live4today
    Yes, I would encourage my children, as well as others, to become nurses. Nursing is a very noble profession, but if all you "see" in nursing is "negativity", then nursing is not for you just like any other profession. I went through college to become a nurse while raising three daughters, and today one of them is a nurse. Two out of three of my daughters became medics in the military, got out, and continue to work in the medical field (the one of the two is the nurse I mentioned). My third daughter is in college now, still contemplating med school as she goes along. I've worked many different hours, shifts, and days as a single mom, but enjoyed them all. For the past four years, I've been on somewhat of a "medical sabbatical", have written two books, and am looking to submit manuscripts and articles to different editors of nursing magazines for publication. I am also activating my nursing license to return to school, possibly become a nursing instructor (I taught nursing assistant students before and loved it). Nursing is wonderful! It's not the caring of patients that becomes tedious (to me), but the glob of red tape, hospital policies and regulations, JACHO, "paper pushers" on staff constantly pushing paperwork at nurses to have filled out by a certain deadline (usually to "protect the hospital and not the nurses who are actually caring for all the patients), and a few of the doctors nurses have to work with who think they created heaven and earth, so have the right to "dehumanize" nurses. I have granddaugthers now who are very little now, but if they wanted to become nurses one day, they will have my blessings, but I will fill them in on the hard work required. If your number one asset as a person is to "help others", then you have the type of character to work with people. If your number one asset is based on "$$$$", then nursing is not the business for you. In nursing, "people compassion" must rank above "love for money". Just my opinion, and let me now say, I certainly respect each opinion posted here, and can readily see why each person perceives nursing the way they do. The same experience may affect people in many different ways, that's what's so nice about being who we are. No one else can duplicate each individual "you". A "copy" is never the same as the "true original" in anything, so just teach your children to do what they love, and to love what they do based on "their own inner feelings" about their chosen path in life.
  2. by   haps
    I don't have any kids right now. When I do I would not encourage them to be nurses but I would support them in whatever they desired to do. I have only been a RN for about 6 months and I am already thinking twice about whether this is really what I want to do. My college life has been nothing but stress and books. And now that I am working part-time while I go on work is just as stressful. My mom used to work as an LPN and I've been around the medical field a lot growing up but I never thought it would be this hard and stressful. For the responsibiltiy we have and the work we do, we deserve a lot more money. But money isn't the only thing, respect is lacking also. People don't realize what all nurses do. Becuase of all this nursing would not be the top profession I would want my kids to choose.
  3. by   Nursz-R-Awsm
    I would,

    #1) if they were the type of person/character to make a good nurse.

    #2) let them know the good, bad and ugly about the profession... no fairy tales.

    #3) make sure they could learn about any profession/trade they are interested in to make an informed choice.
  4. by   Li'l abner
    Originally posted by nur20
    My 2 daughters want nothing to do with nursing, however i would not discourage anyone from going into the profession.I would say that if they are going into it for the money or recognition "forget about it" If you are not self confident,a people person and get a good feeling through helping others, and if you don't know if nursing is for you, you'll find out soon enough. We had people that couldn't even make it through the course
    When I went into nursing 24 years ago I had high ideas of helping people. I had been in the Army as a medic and felt that I could make a difference in the health care a saw being delivered. After 24 years as a nurse I have come to the conclusion that If the Administration has set low standards for care, that is what will altimently be delivered. A good nurse soon gets worn down and has to take short cuts or suffer the scorn and riticule of fellow nurses on the ward. The administation writes you up as not being a Team Player and fellow nurse will not work with you becouse "You take to long and spend to much time comforting you patients, just give them the meds and let someone else deal with their problems". I did not want my daughter to have her enthusiasm dampened by some of the Head Nurses I have had to deal with.
  5. by   diablo
    I've been an Lpn for 18 years. I have two daughters that are Lpns, and one in Lpn school now. I have worked at a small hospital for 17 years.(138beds)I have worked all over the place,except OR.
    In our hospital,Lpns do almost everything.There are a few forms that Rns are required to sign,after we fill them out.
    I have encouraged my daughters to go to school for nursing.So far they haven't voiced regrets.
    With all the stress,agravation,heartache I've been through over the years, I still love what I do!!
  6. by   nhcc
    I'm almost embarrassed to admit it, but I did vote no.... why am I embarrassed... because I love the profession and couldn't imagine doing anything different.

    Do I want my daughters doing this? MMM... My eldest daughter is completing grade 13 and for the past 3 years has expressed her intention to go into medicine to become - eventually an E.R. physician..... Privately, I'm not convinced she'll continue... at one point, recently she expressed a desire to switch to nursing instead. Disappointed - absolutely! There is so much to know and medicine is changing so rapidly... nurses are still more limited in their capabilities than doctors... we're getting there but have a long way to go. Guess I want her to have more options.
  7. by   reyna
    honestly...i can't answer that...it depends on my child probably...
    Last edit by reyna on Oct 2, '01
  8. by   picu75rn
    As a mother of 5, I would encourage any of my brood to go into nsg. So far no one is a taker!!! (we do have a budding vet and physical therapist)I know after 26yrs all the pitfalls, the poor wages, lousey hrs. etc. However, I feel that I have had the best career possible. Most of my years have been spent in a PICU. I know only to well the long, long days and nights with no breaks. The kids and husband have seen me dead tired both emotionally and physically. I have missed more than one ball game. But they also shared in my success stories. When we moved from the West Coast to the South I took off about 3 months. First time in my whole adult life that I was not working full time. I was a wreck.(Cooking every night was to hard!!!!)
    We need to encourage new blood in our field. They will make the big differecne in our profession. Twenty-six years ago as a new grad in Oregon, I made $6.25/hr. It took a few years but that changed. Now we are ready for a major change again. It will happen but we need some youth to supply some new energy.
  9. by   onurse
    Right now almost 50% of the people taking the survey say they would not encourage their children to become nurses. I find that to be ineffitably sad. Have we really come to this? I cannot imagine my life without my nursing career. And if my daughter wanted to be a nurse, I would do everything I could to help her. What we do is important, and we make a difference, and in the end that's what matters to me.
  10. by   nailboss
    My daughter has wanted to be a nurse from the age of 3. now at the age of 23 she is still completelyl sold out to the idea. with excellent grades and 4 years out of school, she has done interior design, beauty work and is still waiting to get into nursing college. unfortunately with affirmative action in our country, she has little chance. the next course starts in 8 weeks time and she has still not been notified as to whether she is in or not. very sad!! we are supporting her. Does anyone know how one can study nursing in North Carolina? she would like to go there as we have family that have just moved there - but they have too much on their plate to find out about nursing schools and all the ins and outs of an international student situation. can anyone help? thanks
  11. by   woo 2
    like so many others i would neither encourage or discourage someone from nursing my children both chose other things. they see how hard i work and how much time i am away fromthem a 12 hour shift is never really over in 12 and i never am home on time. while they respect the work i do they decided early on it wan not for them.
  12. by   SbRN2002
    Hey. I am a nursing student. I am currently in my third semester of clinicals (Med/Surg). I have been reading responses to the survey and I just wanted to share my thoughts about it...Before I start, I want to state that I am not trying to offend anyone and I hope that I don't.

    It really disappoints me to read and hear the nurses complain about being a nurse and the workplace....Being a nurse is not about making the BIG dollars and being highly recognized for what WE do...A nurse has many responsibilities...WE are teachers, friends, listeners, counselors,...the list goes on and on. A nurse is understanding and not judgemental of the patients' lifestyle or illness. When I decided to pursue my dream to become a nurse, I knew about the long shifts at work, missing holidays with families, missing time with my hubby to be, and not being awarded "RN of the Year" for the work i had put forth. THe point is I am pursueing my dream because I care about people. I wanna be a support to someone in need and to lend a caring hand to someone that has forgotten what it feels like to be cared for. It takes someone with a big heart and soft hands to be a nurse. It appears to me that a lot of you have forgotten that. If there are such hard feelings about your work situations, make a career change. Try agency nursing. Its nurses like you that is ruining the NURSE name. Being a NURSE is very rewarding...Yeah, I am a student nurse, but I have experienced it....I have had patients thank me for helping ease their pain and comforting them...

    When I first started this third semester, clinicals were making me nervous...I was just scared to death that I was going to have to insert a NGT into some patient someday. Needless to say, that day came. My patient was suffering from Pancreatitis. He was a long time alcoholic and had been told many times by his MD to stop drinking because it was progressing his disease. He was in so much pain. I tried everything to try to help ease that pain. I rubbed his back, gave pain medicinces, assessed every few hours because I really wanted him comforted. The MD ordered a NGT to be inserted and placed on continuous suction. I was like "Oh my goodness this patient is really going to hate me because I have to put this tube down his nose...." I was freaking out because I had never inserted NGT down a real live human being. I had only done it on a stupid plastic dummy...I calmed myself down and gathered my materials to do the procedure. When I informed the patient about the NGT, he got really upset about it. I sat down and listened to him express his concerns. I explained it to him and told him it was going help relieve that abdominal pain. As I inserted the tube, I talked to him. After the insertion was complete and placement was confirmed, I had to give him an enema. I was feeling pretty lousy about having to put him through it all. When I was done, I helped him position in bed and get comfortable. I made sure everything was ok. As I was walking out of the room, the patient called to me. He thanked me for the effort I was putting forth for him and being so caring...

    That my friends is why I am getting my RN degree. Its all about helping and listening to your patient.
    I would encourage anyone that had a desire and a heart to become a nurse....If they felt the calling!
  13. by   tiger
    sbrn-- hope your career will be all that you want but when you get into the real world of nursing and see that you don't have time to re-assess every few hours, or talk to your pt., much less give a back rub, etc... maybe you will realize why alot of nurses complain. we like to be able to take good care of our pts. but are not able to because of the demands put on us by administration. more work, less help, not enough pay.

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