Hello nurses, nursing students, anyone who can help?
My boyfriend and I just broke up -- after one year together. I was living in Washington, DC, but decided to change careers to nursing and go to school full time while living with my mom -- which meant moving back home to Louisiana in January. I left him behind, but we decided to have a long distance relationship. It has been going so well, so far. Until last week, I was on spring break and went to visit him. I also visited 2 schools in his area with accelerated nursing programs. We talked about me moving in with him while pursuing my BSN. He has been supportive and sweet -- never got mad that I moved halfway across the country. And we definitely love each other.
Here's the problem. I am 27 and he is 34. It will be another 2-3 years before I have my RN and will begin working. Once I do, I will have a mountain of debt to pay off, AND I will want to enjoy my new degree, my new career, and new money coming in. But he wants to have babies! He wishes we could do that now, but is willing to wait til after nursing school. But I told him I won't be ready. I will need at least 3 years in the workforce to work on my debt and to be able to do a lot of traveling and other things I enjoy. He is not willing to wait that long, and I am not willing to have children any sooner. We are both so different and there were already other compromises being made about our future -- this is just the one thing we can't agree on. Now it's over and I can't help but wonder if we are making a mistake.
From a nurse's perspective, am I doing the right thing?