Need advice After Giving Notice: Should I Lay it all on the table?

skittlebear · Dec 19, 2010

I have dealt with the same type of manager. She eventually lost her position because 50% of employee grievances filed, were against her.
It took Years.... for administration to act on her outrageous behavior. I thik you should break all ties,,, you are hanging on to a no-win situation. I would not trust ANYBODY there with your thoughts on this subject. Crazy DON is still ruling the kingdom.
You are articulate, consider an anonymous statement to HR, in a about a year!
Best of luck.

I really like that advice. I think I will do that instead. Thanks to all who have given me great advice. I felt as though I should say something because so many nurses have complained to me about her and though I was venting, I did just the same. I'm sure that she will hang herself. I'm going to leave on a positive note and keep in touch with the many friends I've made there. Once I find out she's gone, I may just come back. I've been miserable for the past year and feel it is finally time for a change.

linearthinker, DNP, RN · Dec 19, 2010

I wouldn't sy anything. At most, the only thing you might get out of the experience is a headache. Just move on to greener pastures.

sissykim · Dec 19, 2010

I bet the HR already knows exactlh what is going on.

If you are leaving leave with a smile. The economical climate is tough and you may need her one day. How much do you make?

Owensaunt · Dec 19, 2010

I recently resigned from a position because I felt that manager was more interested in maintaining friendships than being a manager. I spoke to my director SEVERAL times about the situation before I decided to leave. Nothing was going to change. But the director still asked me to stay. I ended up seaking to the employee relations person with HR- not the HR person in charge of hiring. I told her everythng. Names and all.

I was fortunate enough to be offered a different position at the hospital ( with less pay) but you need to ask yourself if it is a place that you still want to work at. My suggestion would to be make a clean break and find a per diem job somewhere else. You'll just be another topic for them to discuss.

Am I crazy? I have decided to finally leave my job of 6yrs that pays very good money. It's not a stressful job, per say, but my DON is crazy. I can't put up with her nonsense and backstabbing anymore. She is quite new and has been with the company for about 3 yrs and has been in management for 1 yr. She is very unprofessional...talks to other nurses about other nurses and plays favoritism. She writes up some nurses for the same things that her "favorites" do but the "favorites" don't get written up for anything. Even our brand new supervisor talks about this and even talks bad about our DON and other nurses as well so I feel I can't trust her either. I'm on my phone as I type this so I don't think I can break for a paragraph so I apologize in advance. --- Here is where I need advice. My human resources director wants me to confide in him about why I'm leaving. I want to be honest but also don't want to burn my bridges as I would like to return to work there in the future after she's gone, if she ever will be. I'm assuming he wants to talk with me bc she's had several complaints. I plan on working there PRN. Should I lay it all on the table and be honest or just tell them I've accepted a new position and leave it at that?

Owensaunt · Dec 19, 2010

I recently resigned from a position because I felt that manager was more interested in maintaining friendships than being a manager. I spoke to my director SEVERAL times about the situation before I decided to leave. Nothing was going to change. But the director still asked me to stay. I ended up seaking to the employee relations person with HR- not the HR person in charge of hiring. I told her everythng. Names and all.

I was fortunate enough to be offered a different position at the hospital ( with less pay) but you need to ask yourself if it is a place that you still want to work at. My suggestion would to be make a clean break and find a per diem job somewhere else. You'll just be another topic for them to discuss.

Am I crazy? I have decided to finally leave my job of 6yrs that pays very good money. It's not a stressful job, per say, but my DON is crazy. I can't put up with her nonsense and backstabbing anymore. She is quite new and has been with the company for about 3 yrs and has been in management for 1 yr. She is very unprofessional...talks to other nurses about other nurses and plays favoritism. She writes up some nurses for the same things that her "favorites" do but the "favorites" don't get written up for anything. Even our brand new supervisor talks about this and even talks bad about our DON and other nurses as well so I feel I can't trust her either. I'm on my phone as I type this so I don't think I can break for a paragraph so I apologize in advance. --- Here is where I need advice. My human resources director wants me to confide in him about why I'm leaving. I want to be honest but also don't want to burn my bridges as I would like to return to work there in the future after she's gone, if she ever will be. I'm assuming he wants to talk with me bc she's had several complaints. I plan on working there PRN. Should I lay it all on the table and be honest or just tell them I've accepted a new position and leave it at that?