Leaving nursing - page 4

This is my first post, but I have been reading the boards for about 2 months now. I need some advice- I am considering leaving nursing after only being out for 2 years. The reasons I'm considering... Read More

  1. by   Nurse GOODNIGHT
    To the original poster--keep your head up and good luck.
    To everyone thank you for the info on group one. I had no idea. As I am thinking of practicing in Texas, this is a scary thought.
  2. by   gayledeane
    I am in my first year of RN school and find the work challenging and rewarding. I sure don't want to end up in your shoes, that is why I read these notices. If I can offer one bit of advice - after 20 years of employment I have seen many good and not so good employees. I was in the human resources area for 9 years and speaking from that experience your best chances to gain employment is to be totally upfront in your interviewers. I hired many people with 'less than perfect work history's' and never regretted any of them. I found people in general learn more from their mistakes than they ever did in their education.

    Go into the interview fully prepared to let the interviewers know your history - don't let your employment history bite you on the butt. Tell them of your desire to work in the nursing field and the improvements (extra education) you may have made to improve your skills. Be open, honest and sincere in your desires to remain in the nursing field.

    [font=Comic Sans MS]"You can't erase your history, but you can feed, grow and learn important lessons from it"
  3. by   zicovico
    Quote from wandering_rn
    This is my first post, but I have been reading the boards for about 2 months now. I need some advice- I am considering leaving nursing after only being out for 2 years. The reasons I'm considering leaving are numerous. I just don't know if I'm smart enough to be a nurse, and I've been fired from two nursing jobs in a row now- within the space of 3 months. And I can't find another job in the area I'm currently in- after moving accross 3 states to be closer to my family. I'm just so very depressed right now, don't mean to throw myself a pity party. Just wanted to get some suggestions or advice. Thanks

    Never let the failures of the past contaminate your next action. You are a unique being and nobody can change that. The worst mistake you can make is to allow the negative connotations of your former employers or anyone to affect your potential.

    You are well able to no anything you set your mind to do. Never feel worthless about yourself and your future. As others have said, if you can pass the NCLEX exam there is no doubt that you are a good nurse. Just look for your niche since nursing is an embodiment of different fields.

    Remember "Never let the failures of the past contaminate your next action."
  4. by   AMICRW
    Quote from wandering_rn
    This is my first post, but I have been reading the boards for about 2 months now. I need some advice- I am considering leaving nursing after only being out for 2 years. The reasons I'm considering leaving are numerous. I just don't know if I'm smart enough to be a nurse, and I've been fired from two nursing jobs in a row now- within the space of 3 months. And I can't find another job in the area I'm currently in- after moving accross 3 states to be closer to my family. I'm just so very depressed right now, don't mean to throw myself a pity party. Just wanted to get some suggestions or advice. Thanks

    Hi, I'm an RN with 40 yrs experience. Don't give up so soon. Do you know why you were fired? Was it something that you can fix? It may be that you need a mentor who can walk you through whatever problem exists. You might have a teacher, or another Nurse who could help you to make yourself a corrective action plan. When you have this in hand a DON might give you a chance to an extended probation to prove that you can do the job or even provide you with a mentor to walk you through the problems. Have you checked with your state Board of Nursing, they may proveide assistance. You have put a lot of time and energy to prepare yourself, and a "dummy" couldn't have done that or passed boards. Good Luck!
  5. by   nursemjb
    Quote from mattsmom81
    You are so right. Do not allow these recent negative events to define you. You are much more than that and you will learn and grow...hope this new job works out for you!
    Where near cowtown?

    Also wandering RN I know exactly how you feel......I haven't worked in nursing since March had two short term jobs since last December.....fired from both.... feel like you.....doubting myself, etc. Have even applied for jobs I don't qualify for....I even have a previous degree before nursing. I consider searching for a job to be much more difficult than actually doing a job.

    Someone had a quote about there are lots of nursing jobs...that gave me a laugh....everyone thinks that any nurse can get a job...boy are they WRONG. Oh well, you can see I am having a pity party, too.

    Good luck and I pray for you to be blessed with employment that places you where God needs you to be. I like to think that nurses are God's hands on Earth like Mother Teresa said. God will put you where you belong. End of sermonette.
  6. by   nursemjb
    Quote from mattsmom81
    http://allnurses.com/forums/showthread.php?t=60901

    This thread discussed in the past covers some info on Group One for those not familiar with it. It pays to know what people will say about you when they don't think you will 'find out'.
    Group One is like the IRS audit of nursing......I've been blackballed by them once already in 1996.....managed to get another job....but it's definitely not that easy this time.
    Major pity party here...what I don't like is going on interviews and then having to keep calling back before they will tell you NO.
    Inconsiderate as far as I see......

    Another problem - it is very hard to change specialties because of Catch 22 - if you don't have a year of experience they won't give you a chance.....how then do you get experience??? the $64,000 question......
  7. by   Scubadiver
    I'm sorry you're feeling so down right now and from reading some of the other posts - take heed of the encouraging advice. One thing disturbs me though; when we've had a new nurse who couldn't 'cut it', we always offerred them another position in the hospital. There is such a shortage one would think administration would work with you and try to find the 'right fit' in their facility. Were you not offerred another position in either of those hospitals?
  8. by   nursemjb
    Quote from Scubadiver
    I'm sorry you're feeling so down right now and from reading some of the other posts - take heed of the encouraging advice. One thing disturbs me though; when we've had a new nurse who couldn't 'cut it', we always offerred them another position in the hospital. There is such a shortage one would think administration would work with you and try to find the 'right fit' in their facility. Were you not offerred another position in either of those hospitals?
    I wish they would have worked with me, but they wouldn't. Thanks for the kind words. I guess the hospitals and agencies here in Texas don't feel like they have to work with you. Since I'm not a specialty nurse it's much more competitive.
  9. by   deathnurse
    You're FREE! Don't ponder the life of a nurse! You're outta' there! You won't be abused by patients, doctors, managers, relatives, and visitors any more! You won't be sued! You won't catch a deadly disease or have a patient spit in your face!

    You won't go home completely worn out and zapped of your strength! You won't build up a slow tolerance to MRSA through your nasal passages! NO MORE NEEDLE STICK DANGERS!

    Drunks won't hit you. Night shift nurses won't ask you to take out the trash! Doctors won't berate you for not knowing every little bit of information so they can get out the door faster!

    Visitors won't ask you to get them coffee and an extra couple of chairs while you're trying to stop someone from bleeding!

    When YOU'RE sick you can GO HOME without screwing other employees into taking on more patients!

    YOUR OUTTA' THIS CRUMMY BUSINESS!

    Or are you?

    Me? Oh, I love the abuse and all of the above. I make $31 an hour, almost 50 years old. No retirement. Too worn out to work overtime. Got an HMO that almost covers me and my family. I could work as a psych nurse with the hands-on training I got from my managers, fellow employees, and fricken doctors that treat you like krap.

    Maybe I could strip in a club? Nah, that's for younger guys. With larger...egos.

    I wanna' hurt somebody. Bad. REal BaD!

    (Ok, it's 0200 an I'm on a roll here. The bottle is half empty, not half full.)

    Lemme have it, all you touchy/feely types. Go ahead, ya'll.!!!
  10. by   mattsmom81
    Quote from nursemjb
    Where near cowtown?

    Someone had a quote about there are lots of nursing jobs...that gave me a laugh....everyone thinks that any nurse can get a job...boy are they WRONG. Oh well, you can see I am having a pity party, too.
    I'm in a suburb of Fort Worth...love the small town life.

    I agree DFW can be quite unforgiving to a nurse with a black mark on her/his record. Going through contacts helps...know any nurses who will recommend you? Call all your old coworkers you liked who liked you, catch up on what they're doing and ask for their help. Hope you find something. Agencies are fairly forgiving too if you go out and do a good job for them....you might call a few and check them out.
  11. by   sleepless in norman
    Hey, you know my story, I'm not giving up, critical care nursing is very demanding, intricate, specialized and they are like sharks, they eat thier young, there are many areas in nursing, you just have to find your forte, believe me if you've come this far, there will be a place for you. Take Care.
    Quote from wandering_rn
    Thank you for your kind words. I'm just so overwhelmed right now- not sure what to do next. I have done hospital nursing only- SICU and ICU stepdown. I was fired by my last employeer after 6 weeks for not meeting their standards- that firing has me doubting my ability to even assess a patient- much less give any kind of quality care. The problem with finding a job is that when potential employeers go to check my references- they hear very negative things about me- and won't give me a chance. Again- thanks for your kind words.
  12. by   fayejum
    Quote from wandering_rn
    Thanks to everyone who has been supportive- your words mean a lot right now. I am going to try and apply for something I never saw myself doing- hospice. They seem very receptive to me- supportive in fact- despite my recent troubles. We'll see if they actually offer me a job after they check with my latest former employeer- after hearing what she has to say though- I'm not going to hold my breath.
    Thanks again to everyone- when I try to talk to my family about this- they just tell me to suck it up- it's nice to have a sympthatic ear!
    Don't give your last two jobs as references.
  13. by   nursemjb
    Quote from fayejum
    Don't give your last two jobs as references.
    But she has to mention her last two jobs because every application now says that if any section is judged to be untrue or incomplete they can fire you on the spot. So either way you are hosed. I'm going through this right now, too. Plus age discrimination, which I can't prove. Sorry for the pity party......

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