I can't stop thinking about this patient that the doctor failed. - page 3

by JeneraterRN

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Heartache...absolute heartache. I won't go into the details due to patient privacy, but yesterday I had the most horrible experience. My patient was being grossly misdiagnosed and being discharged despite my frequent but... Read More


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    I have always considered patient advocacy to be one of the cornerstones of the nursing profession.

    I fear that the percentage of nurses that have the knowledge, confidence, and assertiveness necessary to advocate for their patients is declining rapidly. And that doesn't even take into consideration those nurses that are capable but aren't willing or able, for whatever reason, to do anything more than follow P&P and document that they did so in order to CYA.

    Be proud of yourself OP. You had the knowledge and an intact "give a damn" that enabled you to go to bat for your patient. You are exactly the type nurse that we don't need walking out the door.
    fiveofpeep, VICEDRN, JeneraterRN, and 2 others like this.
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    You, my friend, are not a nurse. No. You are a warrior.

    You adorned your face with war paint, rallied your troops, picked your battles, strategized and coordinated your movements and barreled into the fray.

    You are what all little nurses, wet behind the ears, bright eyed and bushy tailed and fresh out of nursing school dream of being.

    You are the one battle axes know will do just fine.

    In your post, you said you "don't want to watch people succumb to illness". Well that's good to know, because you didn't. You fought and fought well.

    And when they come to us, their lives are shattered. That is just a simple fact. What counts is that you helped find the pieces and, armed with your superglue of awesomeness, put them back in some semblance of order.

    We can't know what happens to everyone we treat and, in some cases, in spite of what we believe, it's better not to know.

    As someone who works closely in resuming the fight with transferred patients, I can tell you that you bought this person something so very precious: a chance.

    I will not say to not beat yourself up. Sadly, it is what we do and is a part of why we are in the practice we are in: we are perfectionists, a touch obsessive and as such, leaving our pen cap unattended on the counter top at work can drive us to hours of catatonic rocking and ponderings of what we could have done differently.

    Chin up!

    And for pity's sake, don't throw in the towel.
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    Well said, CheesePotato, well said. I was particularly moved by, "Superglue of awesomeness.". . Your words mean a lot.
    exnavygirl-RN likes this.
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    I'm still only a nursing student, but hope that I can be half the nurse you are! Please don't throw in the towel, for me and for all the future nurses out there, we need you to learn from, your experience sounds emotionally draining to say the least. just think about the outcome if you weren't there? You were exactly where you where supposed to be, be at peace with that and ........exhale.
    JeneraterRN likes this.
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    Ditto to all of the above, and :hugs:

    Have you considered talking with your facility's chaplain, or going through your employee crisis line? Especially in situations like yours, the chaplains aren't just for the patients.
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    I hope if I'm ever in that resident's situation that someone like you is my nurse. You are a true avocate. I've had to fight for my patients and have strongly considered leaving the nursing profession. The only thing that keeps me going is the love of my residents and my love for them.


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