How do you deal with your anger at work? - page 2

I have worked at my current facility for about 4 years, and for the most part, I love most of my co-workers, and I get along with them really well. Recently, one of our Tech's got her RN and became... Read More

  1. by   hoolahan
    I am with rncountry. I find that in this type of power hungry control freak, a head-on approach is best. Do not worry about embarrassing her, she needs it, and deserves it!!

    Next time she pushed me out of the way in a code, I would say loudly, "When you know what you are doing, you can push me out of the way, until then watch and learn, now STEP ASIDE!!"

    You need to correct her at every opportunity in front of as many people as possible, esp the supervisors. This chick needs to eat a big fat helping of humble pie!!! She is dangerous for one thing.

    PLUS write her up every single time she makes an error.

    I used to try to hold in my anger, count ten so to speak, in these kind of situations at work, the approcah the person professionally and privately later. BUT expereince has taught me, in some situations, that a DIRECT and IMMEDIATE response in necessary. Esp in this case as this one has done this numerous times. See my signature line and substitute make you feel inferior for "walk all over you."
    First offenders, or formal situations call for a different approach, but not this time. Be direct!!!! You are the pt's advocate!!
  2. by   BBFRN
    Wow- great advice you guys- thanks!!! OK, now that I know it's not just me, I'm really going to start documenting everything. I don't want to get into it with her right now, because my NM already thinks I'm a troublemaker because of my outspoken attitude at work for the last few months. (I told a resident Dr. off because she wouldn't high-tail it up to the floor and pronounce someone deceased after 45 minutes of waiting on her, and their family was on their way up...the NM's asst. walked up just as I was telling the Dr. to get up off of her butt-OOPS!!! ) I think pen and ink is the right approach for now. I have to address it without getting myself into trouble...LOL.
  3. by   susi_q
    Does anyone have a good system for deciding who is in charge? I work critical care, night shift. We have a level manager who doesn't take patients - and then a unit manager in each wing that does take patients. The unit manager gets screwed. You take a full load, then manage any crisis on the unit and manage patient load, admits, transfers, etc - all for an extra $1/hr. I may be crazy (ok, no doubt about it) - but I actually like being in charge, and seem to be pretty good at it. But ... I went per diem this year so "am not allowed to be in charge". At least not until someone decides I should be for that shift. Before being per diem, I always knew I would be in charge ... now when I show up I never know until I get there. Last week they put a "senior" nurse in charge - who never should have been. She goes into a corner and stays there all night - I ended up doing her charge job, "unofficially".

    I guess I'm just venting here ... but is that pretty standard that per diem doesn't get charge. How is the charge decided on your units?
  4. by   BBFRN
    It's pretty much a lottery on my floor, too, as far as night shift goes.
  5. by   deespoohbear
    Originally posted by hoolahan
    Next time she pushed me out of the way in a code, I would say loudly, "When you know what you are doing, you can push me out of the way, until then watch and learn, now STEP ASIDE!!"

    You need to correct her at every opportunity in front of as many people as possible, esp the supervisors. This chick needs to eat a big fat helping of humble pie!!! She is dangerous for one thing.

    Or, you could tell get out of the way, or YOU will be the code!!

    Gee, I cannot stand wet behind the ears think they know it all in any area...I have always said the new nurse who does not ask questions is the one who will be the most dangerous. They come on the floor with a real know it all attitude....I have had a couple of these and after one brief discussion they left me alone....:roll
  6. by   debRNo1
    sounds familiar ran into a charge nurse just like this in LTC. The best was she came for ADON position and asked for 70,000 yr !New grad and boasted about her GPA. Well they explained that she would need some experience for ADON and hired her as my charge nurse- Im the nurse manager. Lucky me after a day or two I began to keep notes as it was evident that she was dangerous. Not open to learn so you couldnt teach her cause she already knew EVERYTHING (and much more than us because of her GPA ??) She argued the whole shift with anyone who would listen about nonsense.

    She told my CNA's not to go to me for anything but they knew better. They called me to a (dying) resident with NGT and resp distress. Never saw her breathe like this and thought ok this is it wheres the daughter who is due to visit? Feeding off HOB up O2 on repositioned and made her comfortable NGT was mostly like out of place I mumbled, charge nurse says NO its in- Oh did you check it cause she had a steth with her? No-"DUH" I can see its in why dont you LOOK at it !! Actually said DUH and "LOOKS" for proper placement. Now shes got MY steth wrapped around her neck I ask to use it to check NGT she says that it is hers someone "gave" it to her to keep and I cant use it-now Im arguing that its MINE !!! WOW ? NGT was indeed not in place. Spoke with the daughter who was ready for MOM to go and nurse tells daughter Oh breathes like this all the time ( day 2 on the unit ) !!! me and the daughter just looked at each other........

    Now we used Panafil for tx's and it is DARK GREEN, omg there was panafil just about everywhere you looked. The tx book was covered the phones her clothes - just everywhere.

    Another resident in RESP distress and she hollering for O2 and how there are no concentrators-so I go on the run for O2 check a few rms and run to check this resident and low and behold guess whats at the residents bedside ?? I got upset because she needed suction while she just stood there. She says well Im new here.........

    Me and my CNA's begged the DON to let her go and thank god I kept notes because they did too !!! DON hired her on the spot and never called the prior facility she claimed to work, called after the fact and got an earful I guess.


    U live U learn
  7. by   BBFRN
    OK, well I worked with her Saturday night, and she left me alone, at least, and even asked for my opinion on something, but another nurse had to take her into the break room and have a discussion with her- the same issues I've had. Well, we were both told by the NM yesterday to leave this nurse alone, and why weren't we helping her instead of making her job harder???? I said SHE is making her job harder, and that I am the first person on the scene to help when the need arises- the NM knows this to be true. The other nurse and I are both due to have our RN's soon, and the NM has already stated a desire to place us in charge positions. She asked me how I would feel if people did that to me when I got the position. I stated that I felt that the absence of a huge pole up my butt would probably be a factor in how my co-workers (co-workers- NOT subordinates) reacted to me. Consequently, the situation has a positive side. Several other LPN's on the floor have decided to go back to school, and have started the process to do so. If all goes well, I'll have my RN by August, and won't have to deal with this anymore.
    Last edit by BBFRN on Jan 21, '03

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