Had to take a mental health day today. - page 2
Seriously. Haven't done that in 14 years of health care, but today I did. Had one of those weeks where yesterday I just got home and cried. Felt better but just emotionally drained. Worried that... Read More
Jul 14, '02"fiestynurse"--I'm sorry it sounds like you got rooked by 2 of your coworkers but I was in the position of taking a leave of absence and it's THE BEST thing I ever did. I was actually in my manager's office with my letter of resignation and she suggested that I take a leave of absence instead of quitting outright. It did qualify under FMLA because my family doctor signed off on it as medical leave for anxiety. I was off for 10 weeks and did receive therapy during that time for how to deal more effectively with stressors (and I still periodically follow up with the therapist to make sure I'm on track). I was paid for I think 8 weeks of that time. I used the time to put in a transfer to a different unit within the facility and it has been a much better fit. Have been there over a year and am still very happy there. So the end result is that I got my mental health in order, and in these short times the hospital did not lose, IMHO, a darned good nurse (which they were about to do). Not to mention that the unit that I was previously in was already short staffed before I left. And as I wasn't planning on going back there, my absence was going to be felt, anyway. Not meant to be a sob story, by any means, just be careful before you jump to quick conclusions about everyone.
(And I had only taken one mental health day in my nursing career before that--at a different job--, and I don't make any apologies for that, either!)
Jul 14, '02Last year I took off a "mental health" month while recovering from depression, and it probably saved my life. This was no easy thing to do (especially since I was sick), because I couldn't afford to go without pay during this month I had to go all over the place getting documents signed by my doctor and government offices. I even had to drag myself into work twice (and of course had to explain myself to nosey people) and my former boss was a real witch about the whole thing. If people are taking off sick LOAs that's really none of your concern. Nursing seems to be a very depression inducing profession.
Jul 14, '02"I am not jumping to conclusions about everyone" I have no problem with people taking medical LOAs for legitimate reasons and a severe anxiety or depression is legit. However, it is being grossly abused in my community. It is being used at times as a power play. One nurse had been recently asked to do something that she did not want to do. Neither employee is a "good nurse" both are low performers and the other nurses see these nurses as getting away with murder. It is a small staff of 20, and there is no transfer opportunities.
Jul 14, '02Thanks to all of you for your supportive comments about my daughter. Thought would give you an update. And a good laugh.
Just saw my daughter off on the 3PM bus to Seattle to visit with her dad, grandpa and my aunt Betty, coming back Labor Day weekend.
She was busy packing and shaking her head. Rob sent her an email today, to my email address, stating that he had "decided to come clean". He's been cheating on her since last October (when he was supposed, again, to be in London, Ontario on company business), then he met Angela in March and started a relationship with her. BUT he wanted Julie to know that he was also cheating on Angela with someone else. OMG, can this boy juggle or not? "When I break up with Angie, I'll give you a call. We can get back together again". Julie shot him back an email saying "don't contact me in any way. Wait until I'm ready to contact you". As she said, a cold day in hell.
She's sending his clothes that he left here off to the Sally Ann. But she's keeping his "cow" slippers. "I like them and I might as well get something out of this relationship".
Sitting at the Greyhound station, Julie said that it was "a good thing I didn't marry him, I'd be having to share him with anything in a skirt". I think that she's turned the corner emotionally.
After her brother died 5 years ago, Julie never talked about losing him. Two years later, when she turned the exact age that he was when he died, 29 yrs 1 month 1 day, she's 22 months younger, Julie had an emotional breakdown and had to be hospitalized for 3 weeks. Emotionally, it was almost the last straw for me. I'd watch one half of my heart die physically, the other half emotionally. Her heart was breaking and so was mine.
After being on psych meds (she hasn't been on them since November 2000 after her psychiatrist told her that she could decrease them and then go off them) and going for psychotherapy, Julie had put her life back together, went back to school for music video production. She wrote a song about her love for Eric and what losing him meant for her (friends of Julie's, "Steelhorse", the #1 country music group in Europe, have recorded it on an album, sold in Euro can't get it here). After re-connecting again with Rob, she eventually felt "safe" enough to tell him that she'd had a breakdown.
One of the things that his girlfriend threw at her was that "Rob says you're a psycho and that he was afraid for his life when he was with you". Of all of the things that Rob did, that is the one that I find completely unforgiveable.
For several days, I watched my daughter's flat effect, her inability to sleep or eat, and I thought, oh God, please not again. She must have learned a lot of good coping skills in therapy, because she's turned the corner.
Julie emailed her boss, who told her to take all the time off that she needed and he'd see her when she got back.
Thanks again for letting me let it all hang out.